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Author Topic: What's the best thing your partner has done to help you through the menopause?  (Read 164042 times)

Dancing Queen

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That`s lovely Jaypo glad you re-found him again. I deffo wouldn`t want the one I had when I was 18 back again although we are still in touch via facebook but NO WAY!  ;)
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jaypo

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I was screwed up back then,no trust in men at all,dumped nearly every man Iíve ever met,my husband is the only man Iíve ever loved,hard to believe but true,had to wait until I was 48 but itís been worth it,just wish time didnít fly so quickly. Iím not the easiest gal to live with but heís very calm and thatís what I need as Iím waaaaaaaaaaaaaa lol just him being there is all I need.
Crikey,I went a bit soppy there,donít let that happen again 😄
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Rosepetal73

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I have been married for 25 years and we have two adult children.  My husband insisted I give up work and take a break when my anxiety was at it's peak  :-* He is kind and generous and helps me to analyse things I am afraid of (mainly relating to health anxiety and scary statistics). He struggled when I had really bad PND after our first child (we both did) but he seems to be trying more with the peri  :)  Mostly I love him but there are times when I can't stand to be in the same room but that's my hormones!  ::)
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Binks

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On 28 th December , 3 weeks before I was 51, I came home to find my husband gone . Refuses to see or speak to me in any capacity . That was the extent of his support during menopause
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jaypo

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Blimey binks,a coward or what?you think you know someone.My OHs sister had the same thing happen to her,just not long ago,she came home and found a letter from her husband saying he had been having an affair for months and was leaving her for this woman,she hadnít a clue,amazing what some men are capable of.hope youíre ok xx
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Mushyjam49

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My husband calls me "goddess" and says he worships me!  He tells me he loves me every day.  (fingers down throat everyone!!!:sick02:)  He loves to cook so he does all that.  He will iron shirts and trousers when asked. He often runs me a bath with bubbles and candles "just because"!  and sometimes buys flowers from Tesco when he's out..."just because he knows I like them".  I can be exactly who I am around him - like mushyjam49 - that would be "challenging" to say the least! Bearing in mind we work together in our business in a tiny office, so we are together 24/7, I would say he has the patience of a saint!   I think the best thing that has helped is that he has been very understanding and caring about the changes in our sex life and how I feel about my body. Loss of libido has really confused me.  I don't think about sex but I know I should, I don't often want it and that upsets me...and I am worried about how he feels...it has been the most conflicting bit of the change for me.  We discuss everything and I mean everything about our lives which when you have challenges has to make it better, right? He never seems to judge me.
We laugh at some point every day even when I am in the depths of depression (which is/has been often since we met) he can usually raise at least one smile.  If I am having a really bad day he says "go have a lie down, I'll hold the fort" or "put your shoes on, we're going for a drive".  Obviously we can do this because we work for ourselves.  People think we are a bit weird because we are always together.

As far as he is concerned I am pretty smug because I have a totally wonderful husband! - he does drive me mad occasionally but there are no real gripes, although when he has had his moments they are spectacularly bad!  We have been married 19 years in May and it is a second marriage for both of us...looks like we got it right second time round. Reading this, it sounds amazing - well it hasn't always been, he has a disassociative personality disorder which reared it's head often in the first 8 years of our marriage but only 3 times in the last 10 and our lives have been filled with illness and a lot of dead relatives.  I suppose my meno isn't that bad against all that.  I would be totally lost without him.

Where can you find these species?? I have looked in Tesco and Morrisons but they don't seem to stock them at all!!!!  ;D ;D ;D

Sounds like a definite keeper to me  ;) ;)
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