Please login or register.

Login with username, password and session length
Advanced search  

News:

Not a Forum member? You can still subscribe to our Free Newsletter

media

Pages: [1] 2 3

Author Topic: Early menopause...premature aging?  (Read 15507 times)

Emerald2017

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 240
Early menopause...premature aging?
« on: December 06, 2017, 05:35:20 PM »

Hi! I'd like to share my thoughts with you ladies. I'm depressed due my early menopause (41 years old), I stay home crying all day, I'm afraid to look my face to the mirror, I see my body to change...I hate all these...my mum says that everything will be ok, I feel isolated and very very sad. I'm on hrt, it helps with my symptoms but I cannot cope emotionally. I feel old before my time...I feel too young to face all these...any ideas? Is an early menopause a cause for premature aging? Thank you!  :'(
Logged

CLKD

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 78790
  • changes can be scary, even when we want them
Re: Early menopause...premature aging?
« Reply #1 on: December 06, 2017, 05:46:31 PM »

You are sad.  That can make us seem older than we are.

Have you looked round the Daisy web-site?  There are details above as well as 'treatments' in the green banner.  Do you have children already or are you mourning the loss of opportunity?

 :bighug:
Logged

Emerald2017

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 240
Re: Early menopause...premature aging?
« Reply #2 on: December 06, 2017, 05:53:10 PM »

Thank you for replying! I'm childfree but I think that it was my choice. You are right, our sadness makes us look older. I think that I lost my energy and my love for life. I'm afraid for aging, death, all these and I think that something terrible will happen. I feel that life has no meaning for me anymore. :'(
Logged

Dancinggirl

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 7091
Re: Early menopause...premature aging?
« Reply #3 on: December 06, 2017, 06:02:29 PM »

Hi and welcome to MM Emerald2017

Premature meno is far more common than most people or even the medical profession want to recognise.  You are not alone.
There are some poor girls who get their meno in their early 20s!!!!

My menopause started in my mid 30s, as did my mother's and grandmother's menopause - so it is in the family.  My mother is 89 and is in good health and could easily pass for 80 or even younger.  I am 61 and doing well thanks to HRT for many years - I have now stopped systemic HRT. 
There are women in their mid 50s still getting periods but they look 65 - how well we cope with the menopause transition will vary greatly.  I believe that age is very much an attitude of mind - having said this, the menopause does mess with our heads and it is common for many confident women to find they loose this confidence when meno hits.

Using HRT will help to protect your body from the damage that oestrogen deficiency can do so you should not think of yourself as ageing faster due to premature meno.  Maintaining a good diet and exercise regime is vital, whether one has a premature meno or not.  The way we age is also genetic - oestrogen doesn't necessarily make that much difference to the ageing process. A good diet with plenty of exercise is much more important to stave off premature ageing.

Clearly you feel a premature menopause is impacting badly on your whole life - I would suggest you get some counselling and CBT to help you come to terms with all this. BE glad that in this day and age, HRT is around to protect you.
What HRT are you on?  Some HRTs can give low mood so maybe we can give you some advice regarding this?
DG x
 
Logged

Lanzalover

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 600
Re: Early menopause...premature aging?
« Reply #4 on: December 06, 2017, 06:08:54 PM »

Hi Emerald2017


 :welcomemm:


Sorry you are feeling so sad. DG has given you some very good advice.
Hopefully things will start to improve for you soon.


Lanzalover x
Logged

Emerald2017

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 240
Re: Early menopause...premature aging?
« Reply #5 on: December 06, 2017, 06:23:39 PM »

Thank you for your kindness! I'm on cyclo progynova and I feel it's ok, my gyn insists on it. I asked him to try micronized progesterone and he said that it can be a choice for later. I'm not in UK. I m grateful for hrt cause I really don't know what can happen to our brains and our bodies without estrogen. My mum had her menopause at 46, she took tibolone and she said that menopause wasn't a big deal for her.

Premature meno is far more
Hi and welcome to MM Emerald2017

Premature meno is far more common than most people or even the medical profession want to recognise.  You are not alone.
There are some poor girls who get their meno in their early 20s!!!!

My menopause started in my mid 30s, as did my mother's and grandmother's menopause - so it is in the family.  My mother is 89 and is in good health and could easily pass for 80 or even younger.  I am 61 and doing well thanks to HRT for many years - I have now stopped systemic HRT. 
There are women in their mid 50s still getting periods but they look 65 - how well we cope with the menopause transition will vary greatly.  I believe that age is very much an attitude of mind - having said this, the menopause does mess with our heads and it is common for many confident women to find they loose this confidence when meno hits.

Using HRT will help to protect your body from the damage that oestrogen deficiency can do so you should not think of yourself as ageing faster due to premature meno.  Maintaining a good diet and exercise regime is vital, whether one has a premature meno or not.  The way we age is also genetic - oestrogen doesn't necessarily make that much difference to the ageing process. A good diet with plenty of exercise is much more important to stave off premature ageing.

Clearly you feel a premature menopause is impacting badly on your whole life - I would suggest you get some counselling and CBT to help you come to terms with all this. BE glad that in this day and age, HRT is around to protect you.
What HRT are you on?  Some HRTs can give low mood so maybe we can give you some advice regarding this?
DG x
 
There are some poor girls who get their meno in their early 20s!!!!

My menopause started in my mid 30s, as did my mother's and grandmother's menopause - so it is in the family.  My mother is 89 and is in good health and could easily pass for 80 or even younger.  I am 61 and doing well thanks to HRT for many years - I have now stopped systemic HRT. 
There are women in their mid 50s still getting periods but they look 65 - how well we cope with the menopause transition will vary greatly.  I believe that age is very much an attitude of mind - having said this, the menopause does mess with our heads and it is common for many confident women to find they loose this confidence when meno hits.

Using HRT will help to protect your body from the damage that oestrogen deficiency can do so you should not think of yourself as ageing faster due to premature meno.  Maintaining a good diet and exercise regime is vital, whether one has a premature meno or not.  The way we age is also genetic - oestrogen doesn't necessarily make that much difference to the ageing process. A good diet with plenty of exercise is much more important to stave off premature ageing.

Clearly you feel a premature menopause is impacting badly on your whole life - I would suggest you get some counselling and CBT to help you come to terms with all this. BE glad that in this
Logged

Kathleen

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 4938
Re: Early menopause...premature aging?
« Reply #6 on: December 06, 2017, 07:13:09 PM »

Hello Emerald 2017 and welcome to the forum.

I can understand your disappointment but Dancinggirl has given you some great advice and as an early meno lady herself she knows what she is talking about!

I don't think an early meno causes premature ageing if you are using HRT because your body is still getting all the necessary hormones, you are just taking them instead of making them yourself. Infact if you follow a healthy lifestyle you'll be doing better than most other people anyway!

I hope you begin to feel better soon.

Take care and keep posting.

K.
Logged

Emerald2017

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 240
Re: Early menopause...premature aging?
« Reply #7 on: December 06, 2017, 07:21:45 PM »

Thank you Kathleen! Hope things go better! Nice to find the forum! It's relieving to share my feelings! I spent a lot of energy to find a gyn to give me hrt and to treat my early menopause. And my last said that I can have hrt for only 5 years!
Logged

Kathleen

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 4938
Re: Early menopause...premature aging?
« Reply #8 on: December 06, 2017, 07:42:07 PM »

Hello again Emerald2017.

The ladies here will tell you that your gynae is wrong, you are entitled to HRT up to the average age of the menopause which is 51 and of course many of us use it well beyond that age so you can too! You may have to fight a little bit to get what you need but your health and well being are worth it.

Take care and keep posting.

K.

Logged

Emerald2017

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 240
Re: Early menopause...premature aging?
« Reply #9 on: December 06, 2017, 07:52:01 PM »

My symptoms were too severe and I cannot function without hrt! My body doesn't produce any estrogen. I'm a cross fit athlete and have no belly fat. Maybe that makes my symptoms more dangerous for my health. I feel that I ll use hrt until I die.

K.
[/quote]
Logged

Staffymad

  • Guest
Re: Early menopause...premature aging?
« Reply #10 on: December 06, 2017, 08:58:50 PM »

Hi Emerald2107
I've just been reading your thread and can empathize with how you are feeling as I'm 40 and going through early menopause.  The post from DG has given hope that it's not all that bad with hrt and we won't look and feel 90 at 50!
I hope you feel more positive about it soon.
Logged

Emerald2017

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 240
Re: Early menopause...premature aging?
« Reply #11 on: December 06, 2017, 09:03:28 PM »

Thank you Staffymad! Nice to feel that we are not alone!  :foryou:
Logged

Annie0710

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 3862
Re: Early menopause...premature aging?
« Reply #12 on: December 06, 2017, 10:38:22 PM »

I went on hrt at 32 because my ovaries failed after my hysterectomy.  Hrt gave me my life back but at 45 I went through it a 2nd (more natural ) time and I can totally relate to your post.  I didn't recognise my self, skin sagging, grey look etc.   I changed my hrt this year and I feel much better x
Logged

Emerald2017

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 240
Re: Early menopause...premature aging?
« Reply #13 on: December 07, 2017, 05:37:27 AM »

Sorry to deal with menopause so young! Hope you are better now! I feel that's early menopause is so unfair! I feel old before my time and I m obsessed with how I look. I try to think positive but its very hard. I don't want my friends anymore, they don't understand! I just stay home crying, I'm afraid that when I'll go out, others will shock with my appearance, my mum says that everything seems the same but...I really don't know. I'm loosing my self... :'(
Logged

Dancinggirl

  • Member
  • *
  • Posts: 7091
Re: Early menopause...premature aging?
« Reply #14 on: December 07, 2017, 10:08:31 AM »

Emerald2017 - the early meno has clearly been an awful shock to you. As an ex professional dancer myself, I can well imagine this has come as a shock.  The HRt will compensate for the lack of natural oestrogen but for you a big hurdle is simply getting over this shock. Do seek help with this as you are far too young to let POF ruin your life.
I do wonder if the type of HRT you are on is perhaps not helping your mood - which HRT are you on? Are you on a sequential or Continuous HRT? What dose are you on? You also sound very depressed so I would also consider an AD/SRRI for a while to help you through, while you tackle this blow to your self esteem?
People will judge you on how you cope and adjust to the challenges in life - not the way you look. Embracing change, in my experience, is the only way to cope, as change is inevitable. If your friends don't understand or support you, then they are not true friends - you need to seek out more positive friendships.  AT 61, I am appalled at what is happening to my body and face but I know I have to accept and move forward - life is too short to dwell on what can't be changed.
DG x
Logged
Pages: [1] 2 3