CLKD, I can understand your caution in booking hotels, but spare a thought for the poor people trying to organise 'civilised' hen dos who get turned down because everyone thinks a hen do is automatically going to be a bunch of rowdy drunks! One of my friends nearly went demented trying to book some quiet accommodation in a rural/semi-rural location for a hen weekend. The bride wanted enough space for us all to hang out together and catch up, a reasonably priced restaurant nearby so we could eat out one night and some good countryside nearby so we could go on some long walks. But kept being offered 'hen weekend packages'. Eventually, the chief bridesmaid had to lie and say she was booking a 'school reunion' (which was semi-true as most of the guests had known the bride since school).
Had the same problem when that chief bridesmaid was trying to organise her own hen do. Eventually got the accommodation sorted (the fact that she specified it had to be near the pottery-painting we were doing probably reassured them we weren't a 'typical' hen do!) but when we turned up for the meal on the Saturday night, we found we were at one end of the restaurant, next to two other 'traditional' hen dos! The manager ended up apologising to us and said if he had realised we would be 'so civilised' he would have put us somewhere quieter. My friend had emphasised that it would be a quiet meal (3 of us didn't drink at all for religious/health reasons and the others only tended to have one glass of wine with a meal) but obviously hadn't been believed!
