Hi and welcome to MM
[email protected]You are obviously going through a rough time and to cope with meno symptoms as well must make things worse.
Nobody can answer your question really as we are all different so meno symptoms will vary from women to women. The fluctuations of the hormones through peri meno stage, which you are in, can be the toughest as you can't know how you are going to feel from days to day - and oh Boy! how these fluctuations mess with our moods. In post meno the gradual lowering of the oestrogen levels over about 2 years after your final period can also be tough but nobody can tell you when and if the meno symptoms will calm down. Many women do find once their periods stop things settle within one to two years.
Do read up all the info on this site to get clued up - if you are still getting regular periods then you will be peri meno but if your periods are getting really heavy and erratic it could be worth discussing this with you GP as sometimes a Mirena is a good idea a this will control and often stop all bleeding which can help - if flushes are a problem you could add some oestrogen as gel or patch.
As you are going through such emotional turmoil at the moment, I would recommend you try some Mindful Meditation - I started doing this on the recommendation of my GP 2 years ago and with regular practise it does really help. Hopefully once the divorce and all this entails calms down you can get on with your life. I can understand your wish to protect your children - I have a boy and a girl in their 20s - but being straight and open is often best. I've found it is best to put yourself first at times of stress because if you go under, then you are no use to anyone and actually become a burden to others.
Make sure you eat well, try to get out for brisk walks, take some Vitamin D to help your mood and energy - you will probably emerge feeling stronger and free. Keep posting. Dg x
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