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[Mrs January]

Hello Ladies

Just a day of it today. As you have all been so very supportive I guess you know what next month brings to me. ( my angel son 23 passed Sept 2014).

I have had a day of tears, they come and go, I hide it from my other two teenagers. I want to visit Jack's resting place and have for two weeks, BUT I get so overcome with emotions I can't get there. Why did he take his life? all those blasted questions and images again haunt me.

Send a hug eh???

Mrs January xxxx

[honeybun]

 

I find it difficult to visit my daughters grave after 20odd years. You dont have to go until your ready. You carry him in your heart.

Take care.


Honeybun
X

[Linsey44]

Mrs J

Heres a hug 

Allow the tears to flow, nothing to be gained by bottling them up.

You have showed amazing courage through a traumatic couple of years but you dont always have to be strong, others are only too happy to offer support.

Unfortunately I dont have any answers to your questions but while I understand your reasons for not visiting Jacks resting place mYbe it will help you.

Take care and never be scared to show your tears.
Linsey x

[bramble]

Mrs January,

Big  from me. The next few weeks will be hard. But they will pass and you will get to a point where you can remember your son and the good times without too many tears.

Bramble xx

[Briony]

Mrs J and HB,
I don't have any answers or even useful suggestions, but I just couldn't read your posts and then run.
Thoughts are with you both. You're both such lovely, supportive forum members - it makes me feel so sad to know how much you've suffered.
           Xxxx

[Mrs January]

Hi Ladies

Thanks, as I am a single woman, your virtual hugs mean a lot to me.

Jack was an awesome guy and the good memories shine through so much of the time. His dad was on the phone earlier and I guess that set me off too. Buddy ( the puppy) has just left my knee after staying whilst  I cried bless his paws. We are marking the anniversary with a BBQ with friends and to cherish the memories we all hold.

HB lots of love honey I know how we miss our children so very much

Love and hugs

Mrs January xxxx

[toffeecushion]

Thinking of you 

[Joyce]

 

[TropicalVon69]

Hi Mrs January, I just wanted to say what an inspiration you are.....let the tears go and be proud of them, don't be afraid of letting other people see them, it may help them too......have a lovely BBQ and bathe in the lovely memories...sending love to you all xxx

[CLKD]

 

He is now at peace.  He left family behind with answers un-solved.  You carry him in your heart.  xx

[Galadriel]

Hi Mrs J,

I'm with the rest of the ladies - let the tears flow and no need to hide them from your children - they show how much love you have. If they feel they need to shed some tears too, you have paved the way for them. Hug each other through them. A BBQ party is a lovely way to remember Jack.



Galadriel x

[dazned]

Can't begin to imagine how you must be feeling but just go with whatever emotions come along and never be afraid to show and share them with friends and family,you never know they too might be struggling to hide theirs from you !

 

[Ju Ju]

Dear Mrs J,

Crying is good, so don't try to bottle it up. And don't try to protect your children from your grief. By showing your tears, you give them permission to grieve with you instead of alone. Sending you a virtual hug. Ju Ju xx

[moonbeam121167]

 

[Kathleen]

Hello Mrs January.

My heart goes out to you and your family. Sending warm thoughts and cyber hugs.

K.