Hello World.
I am officially in the menopause and am 46. I started the menopause at 36. I am not on HRT as family history of strokes etc. It wasn't too bad to start with but am getting quite down.
My biggest problem is VA. I have zero sex drive and severe discomfort most of the time. I was using vagifem which was a help, but it had a two year limit. Now using sylk for lubrication, but we have only managed successful intercourse three times in the last twelve months. I try to be interested for my lovely hubby (married autumn 2013) but hand jobs and blow jobs are tedious when you are not intersted and he knows i do it just for him. Our relationship is amazing but i am so fed up. I used to have a high sex drive, but no more. I would say that i haven't felt like sex (or sexy) once in the last 11 months. Weight is also part of the sexiness issue. I am steadily putting it on, predominantly round my middle it isn't just round, but now droopy. I stood on the scales today and i have jumped to just over 13 1/2 stone. (5' 8" size 14/16) i actually disgust myself but am in a whole and don't know how to get out. I also fear that my innards are heading south as they are very close to my vagina lips, so trying pelvic floor exercises to see if that helps.
I really thought things would get better, but they haven't. I want my old self back!
P.s. have old sports injuries, so can't excercise easily, which sucks too....