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[Shaon1978]

Hi all
I think I have already said I am 36 and going through early menopause and have no kids which has been tough to take in.
Anyway work has arranged for 6 sessions of counselling for me and this all got arranged within a few hours and have first appt on Thursday, I somhope this works to get my head around never having my own children.
I have also got an apt with gp tomorrow night but I really don't know what to say to him whether to just tell him how I am feeling I feel like I am wasting an apt I am sooo confused right now.

Sorry just wanted to get things off my chest, my mam think I am overthinking things and need to accept tHings but I am struggling.

Sharon

[honeybun]

Not surprised you are struggling 

If you wanted children then it must be very difficult for you. CBT could be very helpful for you ...helping you come to terms with what's happening to you.

Have you had a look at the Daisy Network website...it's specifically for younger women in your position. You might find it helpful to chat with people who are going through what you are.

We will all help as much as we can.....so keep posting.


Honeyb
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[Joyce]

I got a nice CBT lady at my surgery, hope you do too.

[BrightLight]

Hello Shaon1978

I am sorry that you are in this position, it is hard.  I am older than you at 44 and circumstances meant I didn't have children, it wasn't a choice.  I have just been told I am going through early menopause and the finality of my circumstances.

My best advise is to take your time.  There is so much going on for you, emotionally and physically.  Great that you have the opportunity to talk to a counsellor, with regard to the GP, please don't feel you are wasting their time, this process is important for you.  Go along and see what guidance and information they have for you.

Grief can be a muddley time and hard work, it takes time to work out how you feel, then you might change your mind about that and feel different but it will be OK in the end. Take care of yourself and accept all the support you can.

[CLKD]

Tell your GP so that you are reading off the same page 
The 1st appt may be a round up of your reasons for being there.  Some Counsellors give 'homework'  ……. you might like to jot down a few pointers to get you started.  Expect some tears.  Talking to a stranger enabled me to discuss, decide, ditch …..

Let us know how you get on!

[Shaon1978]

Thank u everyone for your kind words and support 

I have had one apt with GP,already a couple of days after my blood results came back but was so shocked and confused I didn't know what to say and I didn't find the doctor very helpful to be honest.

I feel I need To go back armed with questions and see if I need to be doing anything etc I just have no idea I think it will be a waste of time.
Sharon x

[BrightLight]

Hello again Sharon
It's no wonder you couldn't take anything in at the time, neither could I. Do you have any other doctors at the practise that you feel will be more communicative?  So far I have seen/spoken to 3 doctors in my practise and finally feel that the last one helped me clarify my personal situation. There is a lot to take in all in one go - a good relationship with your GP for the short term, while you adjust to all this would be ideal.

I am not sure of your personal circumstances but in situations of premature menopause there are choices that can be made regarding fertility options.  You might not be ready to think that through right now, but there is some information here on the Daisy Network when you are ready.  They also explain about treatment options to replace your hormones.  These are the two areas that your GP can discuss with you or direct you to where you can work with someone to make choices about it all.

http://www.daisynetwork.org.uk/your-choices.htm

This site gives lots of information about early menopause, what it is, what to expect, the changes you might notice:

http://www.earlymenopause.com/

Maybe you can work slowly through some of this stuff with the counsellor?

[Dancinggirl]

Shaon1978
I'm pleased you are getting some counselling - a very positive move.
I know you didn't find your GP very helpful and sometimes we do need to lead the way when going to an appointment. Write out questions and if need be show them to the GP - I do this and find the appointment goes so much better. You have been thrown into the deep end with all this and your ability to come to terms with everything depends on the help you get now - your GP should be giving you support. Pleas don't be fobbed off with ADS or SRRIs at this stage.
I would definitely ask about HRT and be quite firm about trying it (if that's what you want) as you have done the research and understand that there are long term health consequences with oestrogen deficiency at your age. If he/she maintains this is not necessary you should ask to be referred to a menopause clinic or gynae for specialist advice about this.  You could print off stuff from MM and the Daisynetwork site to show them if necessary. Definitely ask for a referral to a specialist to discuss your fertility options - I feel this is very important for you.
If you want to start HRT and your GP agrees then do ask for something like Femoston Sequi 1/10 to start with as it has the kindest progesterone that is close to our natural hormone and is tolerated well by many women. Sadly many GPs prescribe the older types of HRT like Prempak that are cheaper and though they do suit some women, frankly they are not as good.
Do let us know how you get on and keep posting - we are here to support you.  DG x