Hi - welcome!
If you read my previous posts, you will see that we have had quite a similar journey. I too am in my low 40s and started experiencing difficulties after pregnancy (well, miscarriage in my case). For two years no one associated my bizarre symptoms with hormones and I was pushed from one specialist to the next, getting more and more paranoid with each visit. Almost over night, I went from being a pretty confident, sporty, 'busy' person to a gibbering wreck with no social life, scared of her own shadow and refusing to do anything but fester (often expecting to die any moment - and that's the woman who hadn't been to the GPs for seven years previously!). It wasn't until a doctor spotted my estrogen was averaging 40pmol that a hormonal connection was made and eventually, I was offered HRT.
I won't lie - it has not been plain sailing and I still have wobbles, but overall, HRT has eased my symptoms (especially the weird ones such as fatigue, nausea, itching, cold flushes, dizziness). I am so, so grateful to the experienced ladies on here who persuaded me to persevere when I wanted to give in and in the same way, that would be my advice to you: hang in there. What you do have to acknowledge is HRT isn't a miracle cure - you kind of have to find a 'new normal' and learn to appreciate the good days. The most reassuring thing of all is knowing, whatever the issue, whatever the time of day, you have people on here who will listen, understand, advise and never judge.
- Sometimes I reckon I'd have been sectioned if it wasn't for these guys