Hi. I have been Peri since my late thirties, up until then I generally sailed through periods with very little symptom, but as my periods became less frequent when they did it was awful, I could have killed! Also sickness, migraines where I could happily have banged my head against the wall as it would have hurt less. My doctor was great put me on the pill, one I take continually with no break & a low dose of AD, 1 tablet every other day, it has helped enormously, now when I get a period I am just mildly irritated!! Why does her doctor not want to put her on the pill? Sadly I think finding help is all about how lucky you are with your doctor and trying various different things. Good luck.xxxx