Hi Dalhousie

Sarah has given you the picture.
Just to clarify:
Menopause is the date of your last period which you can only date in retrospect.
And - as far as I understand any bleeding beyond 12 months since last period whatever age shpould be investigated. I think this has changed since I was first on this forum - it used to be 2 years for under 50 but is now 12 months for all.
Here is the information about post-meno bleeding ( this site):
http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/postmenopausal-bleeding.phpThere has to be a cut off point but as Sarah says doesn't mean to say there is anything wrong and far better for the docs to err on the safe side and investigate more than necessary, than to miss a cancer.
Also - oestrogen levels continue to decline from the time of the last period for the next 2-3 years when they reach an all time low (for you) and stay there (if you remained at the same weight - if overweight you have a bit more oestrogen). For many women symptoms don't begin, or start to get much worse, at this point - so having thought they were through the worst, then get a shock. Some symptoms such as vaginal atrophy - don't begin for many women until well past menopause.
To reassure you - if you use hormones that are identical to those found in our own bodies, you are not using drugs or medication when taking HRT - you are merely replacing what has become deficient - and causing you symptoms. Many of us take HRT long term - - eg I am near 61 and maybe 6 years post-meno?
If you are having true pms symptoms this implies you are still ovulating ie having a cycle but maybe not producing enough oestrogen to build up any lining? There is an excellent article about the peri-menopause on this site here which explains the ins and outs of what's happening to your hormones:
http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/article-perils-of-the-perimenopause.phpSome women also begin to get problems with thyroid function around menpoause so maybe a blood test would be a good idea if you haven't had one recently?
As Sarah says transdermal HRT is not likely to cause diarrhoea/digestive problems.
I would suggest that HRT would make you feel a lot better and good to start before you reach menopause while your body still has some oestrogen. You would kick start a monthly bleed again though - but the benefits are worth it! Here is the info about the different types - scroll down for the transdermal types.
http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/perimeno.phpIf you have any more questions please ask - there is a huge amount of experience of all the different types on here.
Make an appointment to see a doctor/GP in your practice who you know is sympathetic towards women taking HRT and is experienced with the menopause - and print off anything you want from this site before you go to take with you.
Good luck and hope this is helpful!
Hurdity x