Hi lel123
I can't help with the joints issue - but I know that others on here in the past - or even now have suffered with this and found HRT to be helpful and I am sure will be along soon.
HRT will most definitely help with all the other menopausal symptoms and in terms of bad press - HRT taken before the average age of menopause (51-52) doesn't really count in terms of risk and it is beneficial to take HRT to help protect your bones from possible osteoporosis.
It was really only 10 years ago that HRT got a bad press because of the big study that was carried out - but the data have been re-analysed and the study has found to be flawed. In addition the study was carried out using oestrogen derived from horses, and synthetic progestogens. Other studies since then have concluded that bio-identical or body identical HRT - using estradiol and progesterone - and especially when delivered transdermally - is associated with far lass risk.
If you look at the information on this site starting here
http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/oestrogens.phpand especially at the page on balancing risks and benefits
http://www.menopausematters.co.uk/balance.phpthat under 50 the benefits outweigh the risks.
In terms of quality of life there is no contest. Most of us after perhaps trying a few types and tinkering with the dosage, feel so much better on HRT - and most of the time do not feel rubbish!
Do go and make that apointment with the doc but read up all you can beforehand so that you are well informed - even today some GPs are reluctant to prescribe or are not well informed themselves.
Good luck!
Hurdity x