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Taz2

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Re: Medical dilemma
« Reply #75 on: December 14, 2014, 10:25:55 PM »

I know how you feel groundhog as my mum had vascular dementia too. I lived 150 miles away so only managed to be with her for half of the week splitting my time between home and her - my dad was still alive then but ill and very frail himself and was no match for her as she became more argumentative and aggressive. Neighbours were very good and rescued her on several occasions when she had got out without my dad noticing. Very difficult times for you.

Taz x
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groundhog

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Re: Medical dilemma
« Reply #76 on: December 14, 2014, 11:33:17 PM »

 :thankyou: Taz and eveyone :) xx
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Ju Ju

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« Reply #77 on: December 15, 2014, 10:54:40 AM »

Well done for being courageous and making the decision to look after you. Let others take over the situation with your mum. They will step up because there will be no choice. CLKD is right that when you get into hospital, you will be swept along and the outside world recedes for a while. Let others take care of you and go with the flow. I hope you look after yourself when you get home and follow medical advice.  We will be thinking of you and sending love. Ju Ju xx
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CLKD

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Re: Medical dilemma
« Reply #78 on: December 15, 2014, 12:37:32 PM »

Pity we don't live closer ..........  ;)
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Ju Ju

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Re: Medical dilemma
« Reply #79 on: December 15, 2014, 12:43:22 PM »

Yes, we'd all be checking up on you to make sure you're behaving yourself!
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CLKD

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Re: Medical dilemma
« Reply #80 on: December 15, 2014, 12:45:00 PM »

..... we could visit your Mum to make sure she is OK which would put your mind at rest  :)
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Ju Ju

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Re: Medical dilemma
« Reply #81 on: December 15, 2014, 03:22:29 PM »

She'd probably behave for strangers! Like children!
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CLKD

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Re: Medical dilemma
« Reply #82 on: December 15, 2014, 03:27:53 PM »

Probably  ::)
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groundhog

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Re: Medical dilemma
« Reply #83 on: December 16, 2014, 08:11:31 PM »

Aw thanks ladies - yes it would be great if we lived closer although not sure I would subject you to my mother!  Shouldn't say that as I know she would love your company and a good old chat - that is what is so missing in her life.
I have had a lot of surgery but I'm not good being ill so I will listen as I wouldn't want to risk my recovery.  My husband is taking sme time off for the first few weeks so sure it will be fine.  I worry about bowel obstruction which can happen after abdo surgery especially when you have adhesions like I do.  I'm trying not to go there tho and just hope it all goes ok.  Got my pre op assessment on2/1/15 so providing that's ok it's all system go !

Thanks for your support ladies, it means a lot xxx
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CLKD

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Re: Medical dilemma
« Reply #84 on: December 16, 2014, 08:21:29 PM »

Put that worry onto your list to take with you!  Go through it with your Surgeon and team, they would prefer a more relaxed patient than one who isn't saying how they really feel!

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