AngsanaBlossom - often GP's don't recommend to take it vaginally but quite a few consultants do and many of us on here take t that way it is perfectly ok. It tends to work better if you are progesterone intolerant because it is not going through the stomach and therefore not being processed by the liver. I take it that way and I'm bad with progesterone. I take it 12 days on a cycle vaginally 2 of the 100m capsules and push it as far up as you can. The body absorbs it locally. Works fine.
Ref the sleeping if you are taking progesterone orally then it should be having a sedative effect when taken that way so I don't think it is that. What I would say is that when your are younger and in peri, your own hormones tend to kick in and out on an irregular basis and interact with the hrt you are taking. Because it is peri some months you will get surge and other months the body will produce hardly any which is why in peri you get times when your hrt seems to be controlling symptoms and then other times when you are not. There may be nothing wrong with your HRT regime at all.
I have read on here with some ladies that they up their oestrogel when they are feeling anxious because oestrogen is the feel good hormone and so it balances out any of their own drops in oestrogen and/or progesterone surges.
I know what you mean about losing all your fight - my meno journey has been pretty bad I had all the problems, nausea, anxiety, panic attacks off the scale, insommnia, joint pain etc etc - I am now post but by and large have got rid of all but insomnia (dont use nytol but natural melotonin that is what the body produces, otherwise I am like you cant wake up or feel hungover!) and depression using 4 pumps oestrogel and utrogestan 200mg 12 days cycle. I am about to get some testosterone to help with the low libido and depression. It has taken me 5 months to get to here so it can take a while to settle but you are more likely to get fluctuations when you are peri.
don't have any definite answers can only say from my experience and what I know. Hurdity is usually able to comment on these situations so she might be along soon. Hope what I say might make some sense to you though and along with some others advice maybe you will form a plan in your head. GP's don't always have the answers we know our own bodies best.