I try not to get upset when I am treated badly. I try to remember that it is never about me; it is about the person who has behaved badly and the 'bad place' they are in. Their behaviour is not my responsibility: it is theirs. When it is closer to home I make it clear that I love them absolutely and unconditionally, but that does not mean that I will tolerate bad behaviour. When my son started to behave poorly as a teenager, I explained that this meant that if he committed a crime, I would report him to the police. However, I would support him through the whole process, visit him in prison and be there for him when he left prison. He has said this made him feel secure in my love and he has grown up a fine young man. I also remember that people have the right to ask me to do things, but I have the right to say no.