I've got a 14 yr old daughter who, my hubbie and I think may be self harming.
Last year maybe, October time, two police officers visited our home, under the impression that someone from our house had been in touch with Childline. Apparentely, this person had told Childline, they had suicidal thoughts, wanted to run away from home and do harmful things to themselves. They were at our house well over an hour, "interviewing" myself, my in-law and my two daughters, my hubbie was at work. Initially they would not tell us why they were there, until they had interviewed my 14 yr old. when they told me, I was totally shocked, as there is no reason why anybody in our household should feel this way.
I have been married for 21 years, not going through any divorce, both hubbie and I are working full time, we have nice holiday's, plenty of good food etc, etc. Anyway, the following Monday, a Social worker turns up, again we go through all the questions, she even goes for a neb in the bedrooms, to make sure my kid's have proper beds
and that we have smoke alarms ( crazy eh???) She leaves satisfied that no abuse or foul play is in place, and tells us that a report will follow.
Sometime later, sorry I cannot remember when, I was putting something away in my daughters wardrobe, when I caught site of a letter, I know I shouldn't have read it, but I did. It was a letter to some girl, who had apparently been saying nasty things to her, and that she felt like poo and that she had been in touch with Childline, something that she had denied at the time of the police visit, and Childline had advised her to write her feeling down, which is what I found. I was devastated, but felt like I couldn't confront her, because I had invaded her privacy, and also she was showing no signs of bullying or of being depressed.
I went and saw the Social worker, and she said that when she had been to see my daughter in school, which is standard procedure, she saw a girl who was happy at school, had friends and didn't seem particularly unhappy. As did the school, they were not concerned about her they hadn't noticed anything amiss, and we have never been summoned to school.
Fastforward to this week, my in-law was making a brew, when what I know now is a blade from a pencil sharpener, fell from the kettle, at the time I didn't have a clue what the hell it was, so just brushed it off, pathetic I know. Today, I noticed that as my daughter put on her wrist watch, she had a few scratches on her wrist, then alarm bells were well ringing. As my hubbie and I were putting the car away, were discussing what I saw. He told me that he had been talking to our elder daughter, and she told him that she had noticed scratches on her legs ( they both share a bedroom) so my Hubbie started to investigate, he looked in her bed and found blood in it, then looked in the wardrobe and in a little box found two pencil sharpener blades. I just feel so bloody stupid, for not picking up on any of this, and I just don't know what to do, and before half term finished I bought her a compass, 'cos she said they were compass work, may be she was using this.
Where do we go from here?
? Please, if anyone can help, I will be very grateful