There are just as many controlling cruel men as there are kind gentle men in any race, colour or creed.
I have lived in Muslim countries when I was younger, my best friend lived next door and she had a Muslim father and a Chinese mother, I never saw any controlling behaviour, they were a happy family and I use to go on holiday with them to Penang, this was in the early sixties.
Some women are treated very badly ( in some countries dreadfully but they are beginning to fight back) I know and I have worked with Muslim women who have been, but there are some women who find the Muslim faith makes them feel protected and secure, its all a matter of outlook and circumstances.
British women can have a tough time with some men and can be treated very badly and find it very hard to leave an abusive relationship, the behaviour of the men can often be learned down through the generations.
Women in general have had a tough time through the ages, its only since we got the "vote" that women's lives have changed in the Western World and we can see how other cultures differ from our own attitudes, which up to then was always a "Man's World" and women's fortunes were always dependant on men.