As a man i could use advice. Been with my GF 15 years. She is 61 and I'm 47. She went through the change about 5 years ago. Prior we had a great sex life. It was fulfilling. When menopause hit, it was like a light switch went off.
Prior to menopause we always had plenty of kissing and foreplay that involved oral sex ect... When she hit menopause, she no longer wanted kissing, she no longer wants to receive or give oral. These are all things that I crave and desire from my partners. I've communicated these things many times in the 5 years with her. When I brought this up in the past I generally received no answer or if I did, it was "I'm too old for oral sex".
While we do use lube she complains sex is painful and I've suggested more foreplay and oral sex to avoid painful penetration. She refuses and would rather suffer. She refuses to bring these issues up with her Dr and basically believes she has no options. In the 5 years I've been highly supportive of her and I wish I could say the same foe her.
The lack of intimacy is killing me inside and the fact she no longer wants to please me or allow me to please her is hurting our relationship. It seems like it's difficult for her tobdiscuss sex but has no problem talking for hours about her symptoms. When it comes to foreplay I feel like she's not being honest with me.
She knows I'm struggling with this and I never pressure her but I don't know how much more I can deal with the lack of intimacy. I've always felt as a partner it's my duty to ensure my partner is satisfied and vice-versa. I've supported her in every way imaginable in those 5 years and she won't even give me an inch while I've given her miles. I truly feel alone, hurt lost...
