I can feel everyone's frustration with their family & circumstances in this thread
At least we all know we're not alone...
The saga of Aunt and Uncle continues. We popped into the care home briefly this afternoon, to see how Uncle was doing. Aunt was there (again). Uncle was getting around fine with his frame, but not very communicative and displaying some odd behaviours... such as insisting on sitting on the edge of his bed and leaning back into nothing, and just staying there like that despite our suggestions he'd more comfortable in the (empty) chair! Aunt was then giving him leaflets to read(!) and all the time he was half sat/half lay down. Trouble is, Aunt can't see what's happening because of her partial blindness, which we now think is worse than she's telling people.
So this evening Aunt rings us demanding the phone number of the social worker (which she already has) because she wants Uncle home again asap. He's unhappy there she says, and it's making him worse. There's truth in this of course, but I suspect he's actually deteriorating.
OH will speak to the care worker himself tomorrow too and go from there. I want to pull back a bit... their home is unsafe, has no downstairs loo and not much floor space, and sadly it might take another crisis. At the very least, they need care in place
before Uncle goes home. It's getting very difficult now.
Feels good to write it down... thanks!