Hi Carol
I'm 62 and stopped HRT over 2 years ago. I'm not expecting the flushes to stop anytime soon - for me it is more an inability to control my body temperature!
Anyway, due to premature menopause, I have around 35 odd years of coping with menopause symptoms, with and without HRT, I've tried every remedie there is to try - nothing but HRT really works I'm afraid, so save your money.
I now do lots of Mindfulness meditation to help me cope with everything, I walk a great deal and go to Pilates to try and maintain muscle strength.
I do take Red Clover (Premensil high strength) as it does seem to reduce my flushes a bit but I have also researched this and Red Clover is supposed to give some protection for the bones and heart. It is expensive and you need to take them for some time to feel any benefit - if at all.
Do learn relaxation techniques - that is my top tip. DGx