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Hello everyone. I’m posting on here because I think I have gallstones  and I know some ladies have had problems with them and I don’t know where else to ask for advice. I also think it is related to the HRT. I started again a couple of weeks ago. My symptoms are terrible gripping pain around the waist like I have a tight band around there severe bloating and nausea. I have had this before but I haven’t connected it with gallstones. . I just thought it was gastritis. I do have digestive issues but nothing like this. I had this pain for five hours yesterday. I had it on Saturday as well. It goes away, but it still leaves me  Feeling very nauseous most of the time . I’m seeing the doctor tomorrow. The pain eventually radiated up under my right rib eventually. It was pretty intense. I couldn’t do anything much. I’m just after some advice because I’m very anxious. Can anybody advise please? Thank you .

Why did you marry him? and are you both happy? From your post it sounds like you aren't but he is? If that's the case then what do you need to be happy, and can you get that from your family as they are now? If the answer is no, then you need to re-evaluate your situation.
and honestly, if you aren't happy then yes, you probably are f'ing it up on purpose   

Have you thought about finding some sort of ADHD family support group?

He is happy because this is all he’s ever wanted. A family and a wife, in a house with dogs etc. I’m not happy and I’m unsure why, he grates on me. He doesn’t have any friends - he has mine as family friends.
He takes away all of my independence. I’m too anxious to take the kids to school, do bedtime etc - because he does it all and I’ve never had to. I don’t do my own tablets, I don’t do any of the duties that a wife or, more importantly, a mother does. He puts this down as having ADHD.

I married him because we were pregnant and it’s a “normal” thing to do - something I didn’t have.
I’ve always thought I’ll keep up the pretence until the kids are old enough - and then I can find someone I lust over - who has the confidence and passion to arrange things and be silly.

He’s crying and I’m sat here with no emotions - what is wrong with me!!?

It doesn't sound a healthy relationship for any of you. You probably know what the problem is. Doing something about it is hard. And having someone you lust over  won't necessarily make you happy.

My friend has had similar. It sounds as though its the HRT but your doctor must want to be sure. Try not to worry too much. You'll get some reassurance.

It's always good to raise awareness, so thanks for your ongoing work on this Jules.

It does seem that at the moment it is that individual women's responsibility to advocate for themselves. Some women don't feel able to disagree or raise concerns with a gynaecologist.

Those of us who can either challenge the status quo at the time of a procedure or after it, will hopefully encourage a change in practices. it does seem like we've been waiting for things to improve for a long time though.

Yes I suppose its at least a reminder that some women are still having bad experiences.  But when you are sat in a compromising position with someone putting a camera inside, you're hardly in a position to challenge.

my daughter has taken Ashwaghanda for years for anxiety and she swears by it x

Hi, I know this post is old.
I have been taking ashwagandha for 8 months, with no breaks.
Does your daughter take breaks?
Thanks

Yes, Vagifem should help. The bladder and urethra are dependent on oestrogen to stay in good shape. Your frequent loo trips are probably due to the Genitourinary Symptoms of Menopause (GSM), also known as Vaginal Atrophy (VA). Systemic oestrogen doesn't always help with GSM and some women need local oestrogen treatment as well. If you decide to use Vagifem, insert about two thirds of the way up and aim for the anterior wall of the vagina (ie, close to the bladder)..
JP x

Thankyou, I did ask the optometrist how long to use them but he didn’t say much
I will be looking out for offers 😳

Why did you marry him? and are you both happy? From your post it sounds like you aren't but he is? If that's the case then what do you need to be happy, and can you get that from your family as they are now? If the answer is no, then you need to re-evaluate your situation.
and honestly, if you aren't happy then yes, you probably are f'ing it up on purpose   

Have you thought about finding some sort of ADHD family support group?

He is happy because this is all he’s ever wanted. A family and a wife, in a house with dogs etc. I’m not happy and I’m unsure why, he grates on me. He doesn’t have any friends - he has mine as family friends.
He takes away all of my independence. I’m too anxious to take the kids to school, do bedtime etc - because he does it all and I’ve never had to. I don’t do my own tablets, I don’t do any of the duties that a wife or, more importantly, a mother does. He puts this down as having ADHD.

I married him because we were pregnant and it’s a “normal” thing to do - something I didn’t have.
I’ve always thought I’ll keep up the pretence until the kids are old enough - and then I can find someone I lust over - who has the confidence and passion to arrange things and be silly.

He’s crying and I’m sat here with no emotions - what is wrong with me!!?

What an amazing husband. If you don't like your life as it is only you can change it and go down the route you will eventually take.

He is amazing, anybody else would be on cloud 9. Just unsure why I’m not.

Why did you marry him? and are you both happy? From your post it sounds like you aren't but he is? If that's the case then what do you need to be happy, and can you get that from your family as they are now? If the answer is no, then you need to re-evaluate your situation.
and honestly, if you aren't happy then yes, you probably are f'ing it up on purpose   

Have you thought about finding some sort of ADHD family support group?