Flamingo, I'm not surprised you feel terrible, that is virtually a post menopause level of oestrogen and your FSH is very high.
Personally, I don't rate patches and I was never able to get a decent level of oestrogen out of them. I much prefer Oestrogel and I like the dose flexibility too. I really didn't like wearing patches either and they never seem to stick very well. If you are using a 100mcg patch and getting a low reading like that then you are not absorbing it properly.
With that low level of oestrogen I doubt you need much progesterone. I would have a good long run of oestrogen only before taking any progesterone and I would limit the progesterone dose too because of side effects. If you are progesterone intolerant it's best to stick with a lower dose of progesterone over fewer days and have regular transvaginal scans.
I would think about switching to Oestrogel and you probably need start testosterone therapy too.