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[Clovie]

If this wasn't so serious I would laugh.  Both my Grandmas were in their 80s when they died: Mum is alive at 98, her sister died in her 80s.  Dad was 2 months short of 80 and his 2 brothers nearly 90 when they died.

My sister doesn't remember her menopause ......... and it wasn't discussed with Mum nor MinL.  Though both had panty liners when we cleared out after they vacated their properties 

Clovei - if U were gravely ill U would have a lot more symptoms.  Hormonal upheaval can make us feel dreadful  even when we know that it might be 'the change'.  Don't bother with further scanning, the Dept may well refuse a referral if you've had 'nil of note' results in the last 2 years.  Do take support with you as well as a note of how ill U feel and what U R no able to do .  Ask for a referral to a dedicated menopause clinic, not a gynaecologist!  If necessary, go privately to get the opportunity of discussing your worries without feeling rushed.

Why do U doubt yourself? This is your body and others are making you anxious about what is a natural progression as we age.  I suggest that your husband makes an appt with the Practice Manager for a discussion with notes - the Manager should be impartial.

Thanks CKLD . I too want to laugh!  In between bouts of worrying horribly, that is  Honestly, I flip from one chain of thoughts to another so quickly - its draining! 

[Clovie]

Can I just ask?
Is this OK?

We handed complaint letter in on Tuesday, Practice Manager got back to us Friday saying to come in for a full review on a date 2 full weeks after we handed the letter in.
No mention of my request for medication.
No mention of the planned scan. (I'd asked if I could trial the 200mg for 6 months before a scan instead due to the fact that my periods are getting progressively lighter as it is).

Do you think that is a fair response?
To only see me 2 WEEKS after I wrote in, and ignoring of my quite urgent request for something to help me through? They know already that I have quite bad health anxiety as it is.
I'm not currently taking anxiety medication of any kind, no anti-depressants or anything as they've never worked for me hence asking of they could prescribe anything new etc.

I'm so wrapped up in this that I can't really gauge if I'm being treated fairly or not.

I'd just value some outside opinions.

Thank you for reading...  and sorry for clogging up the forum of late with my worrying    I started a new topic on this under experiences as wasn't sure where to put it 

[laszla]

Can I just ask?
Is this OK?

We handed complaint letter in on Tuesday, Practice Manager got back to us Friday saying to come in for a full review on a date 2 full weeks after we handed the letter in.
No mention of my request for medication.
No mention of the planned scan. (I'd asked if I could trial the 200mg for 6 months before a scan instead due to the fact that my periods are getting progressively lighter as it is).

Do you think that is a fair response?
To only see me 2 WEEKS after I wrote in, and ignoring of my quite urgent request for something to help me through? They know already that I have quite bad health anxiety as it is.
I'm not currently taking anxiety medication of any kind, no anti-depressants or anything as they've never worked for me hence asking of they could prescribe anything new etc.

I'm so wrapped up in this that I can't really gauge if I'm being treated fairly or not.

I'd just value some outside opinions.

Thank you for reading...  and sorry for clogging up the forum of late with my worrying    I started a new topic on this under experiences as wasn't sure where to put it 

My very elderly mother put in a complaint to her GP 3 months ago and has yet to receive a response while I made a complaint in May to a hospital about a bad experience with a scan  and I still have heard nothing (bearing in mind on the 2 week referral for unscheduled bleeding and still haven't had the proper scan). So in that context I would consider a 2 week wait lightning fast and efficient though I realise any time can feel terribly long when one's in an anxious state

[Clovie]

Can I just ask?
Is this OK?

We handed complaint letter in on Tuesday, Practice Manager got back to us Friday saying to come in for a full review on a date 2 full weeks after we handed the letter in.
No mention of my request for medication.
No mention of the planned scan. (I'd asked if I could trial the 200mg for 6 months before a scan instead due to the fact that my periods are getting progressively lighter as it is).

Do you think that is a fair response?
To only see me 2 WEEKS after I wrote in, and ignoring of my quite urgent request for something to help me through? They know already that I have quite bad health anxiety as it is.
I'm not currently taking anxiety medication of any kind, no anti-depressants or anything as they've never worked for me hence asking of they could prescribe anything new etc.

I'm so wrapped up in this that I can't really gauge if I'm being treated fairly or not.

I'd just value some outside opinions.

Thank you for reading...  and sorry for clogging up the forum of late with my worrying    I started a new topic on this under experiences as wasn't sure where to put it 

My very elderly mother put in a complaint to her GP 3 months ago and has yet to receive a response while I made a complaint in May to a hospital about a bad experience with a scan  and I still have heard nothing (bearing in mind on the 2 week referral for unscheduled bleeding and still haven't had the proper scan). So in that context I would consider a 2 week wait lightning fast and efficient though I realise any time can feel terribly long when one's in an anxious state

Oh, that's not good

None of us LIKE complaining to the NHS, I mean, I personally admire the NHS in general - plus we have a son who runs a team of nurses in a ward, and another son who qualifies as an actual Doctor next year as he's in final year of medical school.
I just think, rightly or wrongly, that I haven't been treated well, and you too must have had reasons for complaint

I wish both you and your Mum well Laszla xx 

[Clovie]

Update -  Just wanted to thank all you lovely ladies for helping me by 'listening' to me and replying in my time of need. You are all fabulous!

Went for an appt in response to our complaint letter.
Was surprised to find it was just a doctor and not practice Manager as we had expected.
I was all geared up to go into my complaint and then argue against needing a scan - - - but straightaway Dr told me she was happy to let me try 6 months on increased utrogestan (200mg) instead.

I am HAPPY with that, as that was my wish - but feel more anxiety after the event now because I have been worked up to fever pitch for 3 weeks.
I mean, WHY could that not have been suggested 3 weeks ago? I have been through hell! 

I just didn't have the mental bandwidth to go through my complaint after that, and it was the same Dr so a bit hard to complain about a Dr when it was same Dr.
Anyway, I'm HAPPY, but also a bit let down at the same time?  Makes sense?

I am trying to relax a bit now, but its hard, being wound up so long. i'm always like that after a period of stress - I get worse for a while AFTER it!? weird.
My periods ARE coming to an end, just had a very light 4 day period, so happy about that too, either its the increased utrogestan or a continuation of my own periods declining...

THANK YOU all once again for all your help . You really helped me through xxx
   

[Fuzzwhizzer]

Glad you can relax a bit now, this whole thing is such a nuisance and a worry it’s one thing after another isn’t it. Wishing you a calm time now xx