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Author Topic: Feeling desperate. Can anyone help please?  (Read 1166 times)

sue1975

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Feeling desperate. Can anyone help please?
« on: August 20, 2025, 09:42:26 PM »

Hello everyone x I’ve been a lurker on this forum for quite some time 🙈 I am here to ask for some help, of course!

My question is, with the history I describe, what do you think a BMS consultant might offer me at an appointment and what questions could I ask?

The short version of my story is:

-severe and worsening PMS with suicide ideation

-heavy menstrual bleeding with clots and flooding, pelvic, back and leg pain and heaviness (awful!)

-severe PND with intrusive thoughts and SI

-tried Evorel Sequi for 3 months…progesterone sent me into despair

-tried Mirena + Evorel 100. This was for cycle suppression for PMDD as per Nick Panay/IAMPD. Cyclical problems replaced with Fatigue, depression, not functioning at all. Time off work, Stage 3 disciplinary + concerns for welfare after breaking down multiple times.

-removed Mirena and stopped oestrogen. Only thing in my control!

-The fatigue and depression lifted on the third day! I bled that afternoon.

-Had a few good days and cleaned my bathroom and kitchen!

-10 days in, anxiety ramping up and now bleeding again but without relief. Just a headache, pelvic cramps, back and thigh pain.

I just can’t do it any more!

I am going he will offer me chemical
Menopause with a view to hysterectomy.

If not, a trial of lutigest.

Please could you help me get the most out of this appointment with Mr Rowlands (Spire, Wirral)
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Dotty

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Re: Feeling desperate. Can anyone help please?
« Reply #1 on: August 21, 2025, 07:01:24 AM »

Hi write everything down so you don’t forget anything. I used to take a notebook to all appts with all symptoms written down and I used to write questions down .

Hope your appt goes well x
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Konijntje

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Re: Feeling desperate. Can anyone help please?
« Reply #2 on: August 21, 2025, 11:09:01 AM »

We have some overlap in our symptoms and things we’ve tried. So, I am going to tell you what I’m trying, just disregard if you don’t want to go this route.

I am progesterone intolerant and also respond badly to mirena. I tried many different things and recently switched to Drovelis (bcp with a bio identical estrogen), as it contains drospirenone and is often prescribed for women with PMDD and also for women with endometriosis (what I suspect I might have, seeing some of my pain symptoms, but isn’t confirmed). I’m only 2 weeks in, so way too early to say if it is working well and I’m having annoying side effects. However, mood wise, I can tell it’s nowhere near as bad as progesterone or levonorgestrel (mirena) for me. My second choice would be qlaira (it has dienogest/estradiol), which is a similar friendly bcp and registered upto age 55. (There is also Zoely, wich has nomegestrol/estradiol, but for me that is third choice, as I want to find a progestin that I could keep using post menopause and nomegestrol has a less favourable risk profile with longterm use and isn’t available as standalone I think).

It’s weird going on birth control at age 50, but these pills are more a combination of birth control (suppressing cycle) and hrt (because of the bio identical estrogen). Again, you might not see this as a good option in your case and can just disregard. But maybe this might be another option to discuss at your appointment.
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Mary G

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Re: Feeling desperate. Can anyone help please?
« Reply #3 on: August 21, 2025, 12:12:37 PM »

Sue1975, I would say you are severely progesterone intolerant going by your history.  This needs a very specific approach and a specialist who understands reproductive depression and is prepared to be flexible with progesterone dosing and prescribe off licence.

The late Professor John Studd was an expert on progesterone intolerance and reproductive depression so I recommend you do a search and read his numerous studies and recommendations re HRT regimes for progesterone intolerant women. 

Have you actually had a consultation with Professor Nick Panay?  He has taken over Professor Studd's clinic in London so it might be worth having a/another consultation with him even if it's just a one off. 

Alternatively you could try using bespoke compounded progesterone.  I used it for quite a while found it to be completely free of side effects so I would definitely try it before having a hysterectomy.  The NHS don't approve of compounded hormones but I found a 50mg dose of compounded progesterone every day worked perfectly for me and my uterine scans were always around 3mm. 

If you literally can't tolerate any progesterone at all, you will need to have a hysterectomy but it's important to try every other option first because it's a major operation.

I hope that helps.
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sue1975

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Re: Feeling desperate. Can anyone help please?
« Reply #4 on: August 25, 2025, 09:05:23 PM »

Hi everyone x Thank you so much for all of these replies. The information and advice is really helpful 🙌🏻

I’m sorry it’s taken a few days to get back to you…they were bad ones but I’m on the up again now 😅

It’s also helped me to know I’m not on my own with this and there are people who understand and want to help ❤️
« Last Edit: August 25, 2025, 09:07:41 PM by sue1975 »
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Fusseh

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Re: Feeling desperate. Can anyone help please?
« Reply #5 on: August 26, 2025, 07:42:24 AM »

Hi Sue
I just wanted to say have hope this will get better. You are not alone and there is help out there. You are not your hormones or your thoughts. You must be so strong to have got this far. It hasn't been easy, far from it. Just keep going. You'll get there.  :bighug:
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sheila99

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Re: Feeling desperate. Can anyone help please?
« Reply #6 on: August 26, 2025, 08:33:26 AM »

Tibolone might be another option which can work well for those intolerant of progestogens.
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sue1975

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Re: Feeling desperate. Can anyone help please?
« Reply #7 on: August 26, 2025, 05:16:56 PM »

Hi Sue
I just wanted to say have hope this will get better. You are not alone and there is help out there. You are not your hormones or your thoughts. You must be so strong to have got this far. It hasn't been easy, far from it. Just keep going. You'll get there.  :bighug:

Thank you so much for your understanding and soldidarity ❤️

It really hasn’t been easy x

I will keep going-I have some hope now, at least! xx
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sue1975

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Re: Feeling desperate. Can anyone help please?
« Reply #8 on: August 26, 2025, 05:17:39 PM »

Tibolone might be another option which can work well for those intolerant of progestogens.

Thank you, Sheila x I will ask about Tibolone xx
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sue1975

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« Reply #9 on: August 30, 2025, 08:12:02 PM »

Hi everyone x

I had my appointment today and the doctor was amazing! He understood everything that I said-unbelievable! I have been living this for so long and feeling as though I’m in a bell jar…nobody could hear me!!

Having listened to my history…I won’t repeat because you have all read it (thank you 🙏🏻), I will be going to take Prostap with utrogestan and oestrogel.

He is hopeful that I will cope with that but said that the next step would be hysterectomy.


Keep your fingers crossed for me and I’ll let you know how I get on xx Thanks for your support and advice ❤️
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Dotty

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Re: Feeling desperate. Can anyone help please?
« Reply #10 on: August 31, 2025, 06:20:08 AM »

Thanks for the update and I’m glad you had a good appointment. x
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Kathleen

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Re: Feeling desperate. Can anyone help please?
« Reply #11 on: August 31, 2025, 08:45:39 AM »

Hello sue1975.

Thank you for updating the forum,  I am sure many ladies will benefit from reading about your experience.

Take care and let us know how your new regime works out.

Wishing you well.

K.
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