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[Caggy]

Long story short. I previously had time off at work due to menopause but have been back 6 months without any sickness and am performing ok. I just get the feeling they would love to  get rid of me and they just keep piling the work on, micromanaging and just dismissing any opinion or idea I have. I’m always going to be known as the menopausal woman and all new recruits recently have been young go getters. My very large company makes all the right noises, says  they are menopause friendly etc etc but in reality there’s very little support when you need it. I’ve been through the mill with sickness interviews, warning letters etc which have just left me even more stressed and anxious. I realise work is work and I’m paid to do a job, I’m not expecting much,  if I just feel I’m a big pain in the arse for them. I can’t seem to do anything right anymore and manager is a passive aggressive arsehole. Anyone else feel the same, experienced similar?

[flo69]

I didn't experience exactly the same, but due to menopause, the time needed off to try out the progesterones from the GP to see if I can function on any of them, I left work altogether, embarrassed by the entire thing. Each try of a new progestin would flatten me for ten days to a fortnight after I gave up taking it, they all made me feel too awful to keep living.

In the end I stopped the madness of trying all the progesterone preparations, I was always progesterone intolerant and I'm sure I will be progesterone intolerant on my deathbed. The GP insists that HRT cannot cause this intolerance, well perhaps it didn't cause it, it certainly triggers it so I'm stuck in bed trying not to think too much about killing myself or I do without HRT.

Those were my only two options until I started tibolone. An absolute life saver for someone like me who isn't allowed any oestrogens at all from my GP, that's due to the GP's certainty that women can't manage medicines as complicated as HRT with two ingredients, she told me on the phone.

I'm lucky enough to have found another source of income, plus a husband happy to keep me entirely if I hadn't.

I don't know what to advise you, I have worked in big companies and for the civil service, the whispers behind backs left me sickened sometimes. I'd be tempted to go off on the sick again, maybe work related stress, then never go back, get what sick pay you can first. I know you probably need to keep this job or you wouldn't be asking. I wish I had a magic wand for you.

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OH! I thought that I had replied to this earlier 

[jaypo]

I would hate to work for a boss like that and doubt I could hold my tongue but a job is a job. Who claims it is a pro menopause workplace? And could you talk to THAT person?
It's all very well them taking on young folks but they don't come without their own set of problems, pregnancy for one,then they all seem to claim they have stress and anxiety if someone talks to them in a fashion they don't like,so then need time off for mental health reasons,so don't beat yourself up,menopause symptoms are VERY real,so good for you for sticking it out 

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I did reply ........... of course it's in the ether now.