I found the patches itchy when I used them for IVF.
For me it was a short term issue and worth it to have my daughter, but I have chosen to take oral estradiol for my long term health.
I found that the longer a patch remained on, the more angry the site became, so changing them more frequently can help but obviously costs more.
Additionally is it just the patch itself that is causing the itching or the dressing/tattoo film etc that you are using to keep it on? I felt that the hypafix also contributed particularly if it had got wet.
If so, using something else might help.
Also there are several different brands of patch available now, so you might find another suits you better.
I have never personally used gel as in my opinion it is unreliable and too much faff, plus I need to be able to measure my plasma level reliably to ensure osteoporosis prevention, however I know others are happy with it.
I would just say don't be afraid of oral estradiol though - so many women struggle with transdermal treatment despite skin irritation, poor absorption, waiting ages for gel to dry and having it dictate when you can wash, get dressed, exercise etc when the difference in clot risk is absolutely marginal for healthy users of oral estradiol.