Sorry that your husband has died at such a young age. Something that I dread .........

What support do you have overall? The Change can throw up lots of issues, I believed it to be loss of periods and a few hot flushes: which many medics seem to think too!
There is no 'road' for peri-menopause, those years that throw un-expected symptoms. Some find that keeping a mood/food/symptom diary of use to chart progress. In the last 5 years I've had to alter my diet drastically as I have suffered slow bowel transit and my gut began to react with bloating to i.e. croissants, scones, so DH - my Chef ;-0 - has added more veg to our daily foods.
Which is your worst symptom?