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[Bungo]

Youre not alone..I've always had misophonia, people eating etc and thinking back ,always hated bright artificial lights,. could smell things others couldn't, strong food dislikes(oversensitive taste buds?). Since perimenopause my tolerance for sound has gone through the roof.Ive had run ins with the man on our housing estate who voluntarily cuts the massive acres of green space in a ride on lawnmower and takes hours and hours every week.I dread the summer as am in fear of this noise and can't enjoy the garden as he is liable to kick off at any time. Also have a  neighbors son who blasts out music. It's  also the sense of injustice that agets to me. If someone is having  works done on their house,.hammering etc, I find that  really annoying but I can tell myself it will only last for a day/week etc and it's not 'unneccesary ' noise. And I'll try to keep busy ..But the music doesnt have to be inflicted on my ears  I'm insanely passionate about biodiversity and wildlife so the lawnmower is evil in my eyes and grass only needs to be cut every 3 or 4 weeks . Since perimenopause I've also had chronic sciatica  and do feel a  virtual prisoner in my home a lot of the time, so itshard to disentangle whether it's menopause or situation that has made my noise tolerance worse. I've even wondered if it's similar to autism where  they can be overly sensitive to sensations. Even in my 20s I was drawn to the idea of a floatation tank and total lack of stimulus. I've no solutions here. I did cbt for other issues before and the misophonia came up and I was told to practice listening to the noise and breathing through it but like you, I have this attitude of why should I  have to tolerate this..Is it also to do with control? I don't know

[Eastside]

Minusminnie. Thank you for that. I think it'd all be problematic but, anyway, I'm not even at that stage yet because of the anxiety. But I hope to get there soon.
Bungo. I'm really sorry to hear what you've been going through. Everything you say mirrors what I feel too. I am ok with smaller scale noises, but not the bigger ones you mention. I too have wondered about the link to neurodiversity. I think there is also a link to past trauma, OCD, anxiety and the perimenopause, though I don't expect they know exactly how. Yes, I can imagine that reaction from CBT. I'll see what they say to me. I get so activated and anxious that I don't think it'll be a case of just breathing through it somehow.
Yes, I have a feeling for me, at least, it is about control. There have been times in the last few years when I've been triggered by situations where I feel someone else is affecting my quality of life or upsetting me when they have the power not to, and I don't have the power to stop them. I feel like I need to control the noise situation because of how distressing it feels. But, unless someone is compliant, it's not always possible to control.
It's very hard being very noisy sensitive in a noisy world where it doesn't even seem to bother some people. I've noticed that when people chat in the library, it's only a small subset of people who will challenge that - me being one of them! 😄😉. I guess some people don't want to intervene for safety reasons etc, but I wonder if the people who do intervene are those for whom noise is a problem and somehow intolerable to their senses or morality, or both!

[CLKD]

There are specific questions to answer when selling properties, one relating to 'disputes with neighbours' ........ it also asks whether alterations have been made which if the answer is 'no' can cause problems for the new owners [as has happened locally - alterations made without building regulations to which the seller stated 'no']. 

U can request the Solicitor to ask specific questions i.e. relating to noise issues.

[Eastside]

Thank you, yes I know about those questions. I had to somehow answer them in relation to my neighbour from hell when I was selling my mother's property 😱😱. I shall definitely be asking questions.
Thanks for all your help!

[Sophya]

Thanks all. I'm sorry you're having this too. Tribbins - all of that for me too. I think a big part of my issue is feeling that people are being selfish. And that makes me angry and highly anxious and distressed. I hope the CBT is working for you. In my heart, I know that I need to change my cognitive responses too. But often the sense of injustice overrides the feeling that maybe I could let it go e.g how dare that person do x,y,z and then it feels distressing because it's out of my control. It's interesting you mentioned a traumatic event. I'm pretty sure that noise sensitivity can be related to trauma/nervous system dysregulation. Two friends of mine had unstable childhoods too and are both highly sensitive to noise. But then hormones or age must come into it too.
CLKD- again, I'm with you there. For me, it gets so bad that I have to try to stop it. E.g if builders were playing music I'd probably have to ask them (nicely?!) to turn it down. Dogs are also an issue. I try not to tune into that as that could literally drive me insane. 🤪
Yes, drivers as well as they often bomb along playing loud music. But at least that's temporary, unless they park and do that. My old neighbour used to park his car, open his car doors and blast a very expensive stereo out so you could hear the music all the way up the road, while he sat on his wall and enjoyed a beer 🍺.😂 You literally could not make that up! As you can imagine, we were a perfect match! 😍
LittleClaire, that sounds familiar. I can't concentrate at all if there are loud sounds in the background.
Hmm. I may try to look into it a bit more.
I also wonder about using loop earplugs etc. But then my concern is whether you then would struggle even more when exposed to loud sounds because you had tried to hide from them, and whether it's just better to try to find coping mechanisms for the sounds as they are.

I get the whole thing about noise throwing you off. I am super sensitive to sound and once the outside noise started creeping in, even cars from the street felt like they were in my living room. Footsteps, traffic, random doors, everything felt ten times louder and I was losing my mind a bit.

[CLKD]

A few years ago locals campaigned for a by-pass away from the village which eventually was dug and regularly used.  Now however there are 'rat runs', plus additional housing and warehousing. being built so the road through the village is again busy