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[Sag69]

Just gone 12 months in June since my last period
I’ve been through hell& back for about 10 yrs leading up to peri
I really thought things may settle down after going 12 months without a period after the hell I’ve been through , but NOOO
My flushes have gone worse it’s like I’ve not got a thermostat I’m combusting then freezing I just can’t win😩😩
Feel so bad all the time
I literally just want to go to sleep all the time because I’m that tired
I’m woke up about 10 times in the night🥵🥶
I’m not on any meds!!
Anyone relate?

[Dotty]

My symptoms got worse three years after my last period 😢.

[bombsh3ll]

Sorry if you're hearing this late but you do know that's all treatable right?

It makes me sad to think of women putting up with such miserable symptoms for literally years.

You deserve so much better for both your quality of life and long term health.

But you are in the right place to get the information and confidence to go and advocate for yourself and get treated.

[CLKD]

Sag69 - have you had recent blood tests for low VitD levels, Thyroid Function and liver levels?  We shouldnt' blame everything on menopause until other possible issues have been investigated.

Intense tiredness can be due to low VitD levels or a blip with the thyroid.  Or low iron levels.

Some find that keeping a mood/food/symptom diary of use to chart progress. 

What wakes you in the night?  Hot/cold, bladder, listening 4 the alarm clock ...........

[Nas]

Yep, in the same boat. 6 years post menopause, no ovaries and symptoms ramping up by the bucketful. Very fed up too! 

As CLKD said, maybe get vitamin and iron levels tested first. Thyroid can be very problematic if off kilter. If all is okay, then maybe have a think about how you want to address your symptoms. By adding hormones, or by other means. The good news is, that you have a choice of medications to deal with these horrid symptoms, including HRT. You don’t have to suffer. Research as much as you can; knowledge is power. Then you can make an informed decision.

[jillydoll]

I sailed through peri, didn’t even realise I WAS in peri.
Then after my last period, and went 12 months, it all hit me.
There was me thinking ‘ what’s all the fuss about this menopause’ 
So HRT it was.

Please don’t suffer anymore, we’ve enough to deal with in this life as it is. Xx

[Sag69]

Thanks for the replies
I’ve had bloods done all fine!

[bombsh3ll]

It's great that you have had bloods done to rule out other things however menopause is a clinical diagnosis.

Normal blood tests should never be used to dismiss someone who is suffering when safe and effective treatment exists, so please do get the help you need.

[Sag69]

Safe&effective treatment
Which are you referring to?
Thanks

[bombsh3ll]

The gold standard treatment for menopause is hormone therapy with estrogen, progestogen (essential if uterus present) and testosterone if required.

This is extremely safe and effective despite inaccurate media reporting dating back to a flawed and misreported study in 2002.

There are lots of different types and formulations available.

Even women who can't take hormone therapy for example in the setting of current or recent hormone sensitive breast cancer have options available such as drugs originally developed as antidepressants as well as newer agents that target hot flushes.

Nobody has to just put up with life destroying symptoms. Hormone therapy also reduces the risk of osteoporosis, cardiovascular disease, colorectal cancer and possibly dementia although the evidence is still just beginning to be gathered on the latter.

Your GP is a good place to start and should be able to go through the options with you.

[Kathleen]

Hello Sag69 and welcome to the forum.


I didn't have any problems in peri, my periods continued to be regular but a bit heavier. I didn't have any other peri  problems that I can recall and I was totally unprepared for the menopause. When symptoms started I thought that I could tough it out but everything became worse three years after my last period and that's when I asked for HRT.

My HRT journey has been a bumpy one and I still worry about my ever changing emotional state. Most of my physical symptoms have been and gone however so I think there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I hope things improve for you and if not HRT is definitely worth considering

Take care and wishing you well.

K.

[Sag69]

Thanks Kathleen

I know I shouldn’t be suffering because there is help out there like HRT,but I won’t have it, I don’t like taking medication and try to do it all naturally!
 
I’ve been called stupid&the rest for suffering like I have been, but that’s just me

[Nas]

What’s natural about suffering?
All you are doing is replacing the hormones you are losing.

The medication is there and there are many different types to trial.

I can’t take HRT at all and would give my right arm to be back on it again, but alas no.

You are in the fortunate position to be able to trial hrt safely.

[jillydoll]

I agree with Nas.
I hate taking medicine of any kind, and always try to avoid them, BUT, meno is different, it messes with everything, and my symptoms were really bad, so to eventually get some relief was fantastic.
It was hard at first, I’ll not lie, but eventually when I got my doses right, I felt like myself again.
Just saying. 💁🏼‍♀️
Good luck with whatever route you take. xx

[bombsh3ll]

Nobody should feel pressured to take anything they don't want to, however sometimes the idea of something being "natural" is conflated with it being good or healthy, particularly within marketing.

Earthquakes and cholera are natural but that doesn't mean they are desirable.

My pacemaker certainly isn't natural but I am extremely thankful for it! Just like women with horrible menopause symptoms, I wasn't dead with a heart rate of 40 but I wasn't living either because I had no quality of life.

It can also be argued that it isn't natural for large numbers of women to survive many years beyond the cessation of our ovarian function, because until the last hundred years or so most women died either before or soon after menopause.

People talk about the grandmother hypothesis, however without birth control this would have been women in their late 30s and 40s, not octogenarians.