I was similar to you. I was increased me to 100 mcg patch and a gynaecologist upped my utrogestam to 200 mg ( although I now think they know very little about HRT) I felt awful on that. My GP did test my estradiol levels, as I’m post menopausal (they should really do that for you, can you not insist?) and my levels were 81. Pmo/l. I’d been on patches for nearly two years.
I saw a menopause specialist as my GP didn’t have a clue and switched to three sprays of Lenzetto and had a mirena coil fitted. Within a week, I immediately felt better. I had another estradiol test a few weeks later, ( with Lenzetto, you take it about an hour before your next sprays) and my levels were 430 Pmo/l.
It sounds like you just aren’t absorbing.
I urge you to get an estradiol blood test somehow if you can, so you can find out what’s happening.