Hi K45
Yes it is an impossible task to sync withdrawal bleed with your own cycle because the very definition medically of peri-menopause is irregular cycles. In the early peri-menopause when your cycle is still quite strong there may be cycles where you bleed twice but gradually this should settle as ovulation becomes less frequent and the bleed becomes more usually, the HRT withdrawal bleed towards the end or shortly after stopping the utrogestan.
The advice generally is always to continue with the utrogestan cycle for the full course to ensure your endometrium is fully protected as you won't know which months you ovulate and therefore producing your own progesterone.
If after a few months the bleed is consistently occurring at the same "wrong" time in your cycle then yes it's possible to tweak eg by a week to try to sync - but as I said your own cycle may well break through if ovulaton is irregular.
What dose of oestrogen and progesterone are you taking and is the prog 12 days per 28 day cycle?
Hurdity x