Print

Please login or register.
1 Hour 1 Day 1 Week 1 Month Forever
Login with username, password and session length

[Lulu_A]

Hi all,

Next week I am taking my husband to his uncle's funeral. It's a little complex... he had not seen him for many years but was very close to him when he was little.  His relationship with his aunt is/was therefore distant but they have emailed frequently the past 2 weeks and we want to give her support.

My issue is ... I've always been emotional but never more since hitting The M. I've been on hrt since October and my concern is I want to be useful to him and his family, not a blubbering wreck over a nice man I only met twice.  How do I prepare myself to be of help rather than bursting in to tears as soon as I see his aunt, and becoming a liability? He'll know very few people there so I want to support him. I just need to work out how to train myself to not get carried away by the sadness.

The up n down emotions did get better for a while on hrt but I still am easily triggered by anything emotional. Any advice would be gratefully received.

Thank you, Lulu

[Limpy]

Perhaps give his aunt a quick phone call to see how she is and ask is there anything you could do to help. You could mention your concerns about getting over emotional and ask if you could perhaps help from behind the scenes.

[CLKD]

Have U talked to him about your worries as he can probably manage his emotions?   I've found that on the day, it works out fine especially as I am unable to go into the Service. I'm never missed.  So if you both feel it's too much to go in, mayB take photos of the flowers because not any think to do so.  Then join the family after where it's less structured.