I'm not a lady but I am post meno!

. There doesn't seem to be standard recommendation about oestrogen levels per se. Different levels for different reasons. Some years ago I read a paper about minimum level for (good) bone protection (and have not been able to find the paper again) which mentioned something like 165 pmol/l if I recall correctly - as I was surprised it was so low, though any oestrogen will improve bone health.
Have also read a paper about HRT - again some years ago - suggesting the amount to aim for was the average level over the menstrual cycle - but as we're all different, that itself would be a range - but was something like 300-350. Then again as Kathleen said - treating reproductive depression - a clinical condition - there is recommended a level of 800 pmol/l or so - but I think that may well be in peri-women?
Clearly for women in their 60s 70s 80s it is probably not a good thing to continue to artificially maintain very high oestrogen levels indefinitely - mainly because there is insufficient research.
Many doctors in any case go by symptoms - as you say - for many women are happily unaware of their oestrogen levels - only those who go to private consultants, or particular reasons on NHS, will know their oestrogen levels through blood tests.
So how long is a piece of string?!!
I cant remember how old you are but have you tried any of the contraceptive pills like Zoely which gives a constant oestrogen level that is not high, but will prevent ovulation? Maybe you are too old or tablet don't suit you but might be worth a try before going down the chemical menopause route?
I do hope you manage to find a solution to those unpleasant symptoms.
All the best
Hurdity x