Oh RosieRay I empathise with you sooo much. I can’t remember a time I felt well either. Since puberty it’s been a battle with fibroids, cysts and migraines. Fertility treatment in my thirties (sadly unsuccessful), and now peri menopause has been going on for approx 15 years. Like you I’m also coeliac and like you I need continuous progesterone to stop the migraines which always happen when the progesterone stops during a sequi regime. I also have acquired a histamine intolerance (thanks oestrogel for sending my histamines into the stratosphere)
On a positive note though, I have had a Mirena coil fitted recently. My bleeds on HRT were very heavy and every 2 weeks, which made me anaemic and now I’m on heavy duty ferrous fumarate indefinitely. I thought the coil would be awful because I’m hyper sensitive to any tiny hormonal changes, but it’s been a revelation. No headaches or migraines, no change in mood. I’m still spotting but that is to be expected until it settles down. I can’t go above a 50 estradot patch because of the histamine intolerance and have found I still need 100mg utrogestan continuously to keep on top of it.
Do I feel well? I honestly don’t know what ‘well’ feels like, but I do feel in control of my symptoms and optimistic. I feel like exercising, making plans, having fun. I feel human and not anxious about being a ‘burden’. The Mirena isn’t so bad. I have resisted it for years for the same reasons you have, and I really wish I had done it sooner.
I hope you find the answer for your hormones too. It is out there. Good luck.