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[CLKD]

Why not ask the neighbours?  Introduce yourself and bring up the query ?  MayB your visitors will be able to isolate the sensations. 

[SarahT]

Hello Kara,

Sorry for radio silence, had a few bad days, which you know sadly too well.

Like menomel,  and her own creaking house. Ours is a small barn conversion with really high ceilings in the living room in particular, so lots of exposed beams. And when the wind is howling it seems to almost recommend house, and beams creak on  extra strong gusts. It's and old structure, about 400 years old but converted about 25 years ago, and it took a while to get used to all the creaks and groans and just generally house noises, the water coming on, floorboards sometimes squeak as best comes on in the underfloor heating. No I feel some house house as comforting rather than worrying noises.
I am quite noise intolerant I think, although neighbours are just going about there day to day lives I get easily irritated. I have tinnitus in both ears as well but don't know if that adds to my intolerance.

I wish you well with the relative visits, it's good you are beginning to feel more lifted after a supportive chat with a friend. Often I find the thought of an impending visit is so much worse than them being here... And I actually mostly enjoy them being here! It is early days for your new move, maybe rather than missing your old place it may be just the result of all the stresses you have been under.
As you say, even being back on the forum is a positive. Small steps can feel the biggest sometimes.

Take care x

[KaraShannon]

Why not ask the neighbours?  Introduce yourself and bring up the query ?  MayB your visitors will be able to isolate the sensations.

I will CLKD, just overwhelmed with so much to do atm.

Visitors just had a quick visit as we'd been out for a meal and they'd come a long way.

[KaraShannon]

Hello Kara,

Sorry for radio silence, had a few bad days, which you know sadly too well.

Like menomel,  and her own creaking house. Ours is a small barn conversion with really high ceilings in the living room in particular, so lots of exposed beams. And when the wind is howling it seems to almost recommend house, and beams creak on  extra strong gusts. It's and old structure, about 400 years old but converted about 25 years ago, and it took a while to get used to all the creaks and groans and just generally house noises, the water coming on, floorboards sometimes squeak as best comes on in the underfloor heating. No I feel some house house as comforting rather than worrying noises.
I am quite noise intolerant I think, although neighbours are just going about there day to day lives I get easily irritated. I have tinnitus in both ears as well but don't know if that adds to my intolerance.

I wish you well with the relative visits, it's good you are beginning to feel more lifted after a supportive chat with a friend. Often I find the thought of an impending visit is so much worse than them being here... And I actually mostly enjoy them being here! It is early days for your new move, maybe rather than missing your old place it may be just the result of all the stresses you have been under.
As you say, even being back on the forum is a positive. Small steps can feel the biggest sometimes.

Take care x

No problem with the radio silence    I don't think we need hard and fast rules on this thread, if we reply all good, if not, it's probably overwhelm or busy etc

Sorry you've had a few bad days, I hope you have more good days coming and that today is a little better.

I think I'm acutely aware of noise and movement that's not 'natural' as in a generator, or a speaker or something like that, especially when it occurs in my quiet time when either trying to sleep or reflect and when it's causing buzzing or movement through the bed especially.  But for now I've got enough on my plate just sorting stuff out.  I tend to be on tenterhooks these days if I'm not totally together and on top of things.  Any disarray causes me anxiety. 

Anyway it will all be ok in the end, lol.  Talking of small steps, I'm now living where I used to walk when younger, so I'm going to attempt a walk in a while.

[KaraShannon]

Well a very quiet saturday night here only to be woken at 6am by intense vibration going through my floor and bed.  So much so that I started rearranging the bedroom, the bed is now on the other side of the room, which still gets it, but hoping it won't get the early morning intense vibration.  Perhaps it's a boiler heating up then, but sunday mornings are the worst and seem to coincide with lots of banging and other family sounds (which I don't mind).  So still have my suspicions it's a sound bar, gaming equipment or something. 

Took a sleeping pill at 8am to try and get more sleep as been sleep deprived all week. 

3pm, only just ready to go out and see relatives, having taken the best part of the day to sort myself out. 

I do hope this all gets better, I feel like I'm at the bottom of a mountain at the moment and it has to be climbed.

[CLKD]

It's all new.  Give yourself some slack.  Sundays are for resting ;-).  And who are you answerable to? 

Is there a railway station locally?  Vibrations and noise travel differently at ground level, as we found out whilst camping in France many years ago  [long story short  ].  Or lorries on a road? 

[KaraShannon]

It's all new.  Give yourself some slack.  Sundays are for resting ;-).  And who are you answerable to? 

Is there a railway station locally?  Vibrations and noise travel differently at ground level, as we found out whilst camping in France many years ago  [long story short  ].  Or lorries on a road?

Thanks CLKD,

it seems I'm giving myself a lot of slack this year and nothing is being done.  I'm only answerable to me, only want to be happy, I haven't arranged to go away this year, and I only mean in this country, I just feel like I'm not getting anywhere. 

I know what you mean but these vibrations do seem tied to the neighbouring property.  That said moving my bed seems to have helped a bit, hopefully that will continue.  thanks for replying while I'm a misery 

[CLKD]

You're a misery, U can't see me with brown paper bag over my head 

Half a day at a time?  Did U sleep last night or lay awake waiting for the intrusions?

[KaraShannon]

You're a misery, U can't see me with brown paper bag over my head 

Half a day at a time?  Did U sleep last night or lay awake waiting for the intrusions?

I slept.  I do everything I can to make things work.  Thankfully moving the furniture may have helped as it's the early waking that's the worst (can't go back to sleep quickly and then have to be up soon after)

I'm going out for a walk this afternoon, it's raining but I don't mind, it's only light.  I'm meant to be working, but it's not happening atm, will just have to work longer the rest of this week.

Sorry you've got the brown paper bag over your head.  Actually that sounds like a good idea, I could go get one and hide in it. 

[CLKD]

Mine's soggy now, all that rain 

[KaraShannon]

Mine's soggy now, all that rain 

 

[KaraShannon]

health feels a bit better today, not completely better but better.

Friend called, they have to have a brain scan    they've always had problems from a childhood brain injury, but I don't see that they are any worse now, they are just the same.  Not sure what good could come of it as there's very little that can be done if they did find something.  They are not showing signs suggestive of a tumour or anything like that.  They are just showing all their usual problems, enhanced by the lockdowns and lack of social support, but otherwise no different.  I worry anything found will depress them and lead them to give up.  And it may have been there most of their life.

[KaraShannon]

I am wondering if my heightened anxiety about everything is as a result of the gradual lowering of estradiol.  It seems way more pronounced.  I've also lost 2 - 3 inches off my waist since doing it as well (that's a good thing though lol)

[KaraShannon]

Feeling a bit brighter today.

I don't need drugs, just an understanding friend (who's finally realised how low I was and is being supportive now) and a sense that I'm making progess (which I now feel I am).  I've still got all the problems I mentioned but more equipped to manage those now than I was.

How's everyone else? 

[SarahT]

Hello Kara,
That's so good your friend can now give you the support and understanding you need. Even with health issues aside, sometimes the Crap side of life can feel a bit overwhelming and at times it can of course impact our anxiety and mental health. So it's great that this has given you a better feel for things. Just one small positive can help turns things around.

So as for me, well my energy is still pretty poor. I have been saying to my gp each time we are in contact how exhausted I get and how bad my joint pain and muscle weakness  is. I was hoping hrt would help the pain as it seems for some women, but  I on an unlicensed dose of patches and can't go higher. So it seems my pain and tiredness is not peri related, after blood tests ruled out the usual suspects she is now testing my cortisol levels,then referring me to a rheumatologist. I have been diagnosed with osteo arthritis in both hips this year, but my physio thinks it is either rheumatoid arthritis of fibromyalgia. Oh good. More to contend with....
Anyhow, trying to stay positive and moving as much as I can. On Ads now to help with the severe pms, fingers crossed these next couple of weeks when my cycle usually hits things my moods will be better.
In an ok mood today, physically Crap but I am 6\10 physically and an 8\10 mentally. I'll take that!

Take care