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[jaypo]

I think a lot of men are mollycoddled by their mothers from the get go,so they expect their wife to do the same,my OHs mother had not time for her children,in fact in this day and age she would've been done for child neglect,so maybe that's why he's not the way some men are 🤷‍♀️ My ex WAS like how you describe and maybe that's why he's my ex 

[Losingtheplot]

Men 

Did he get up to switch on the oven?

Yes he did after much sighing!
Honestly! 

[CLKD]

  mayB a word about the sighing .......... ask him whether he would prefer to employ a maid 3 times a week to give him a break 

[Losingtheplot]

mayB a word about the sighing .......... ask him whether he would prefer to employ a maid 3 times a week to give him a break 

  I have said this to him many a time in the past.  The point is I cook tea everynight as I am home from work first and this was to make food for his son!! Just lazy like I say xxx

Like Moonshines lovely husband my hubby will put earphones in if I start to raise a point that is valid frustrating is not the word especially if my anger is raging due to my lovely hormones! Totally and utterly pee'd off is. And I just then feel like doing a Shirley Valentine!! Oh if only 

[CLKD]

That's got nowt to do with hormones!  That's plain rude and inconsiderate.  It would happen once here!  After which the ear phones would be in the recycling bin and a letter from the Solicitor offering Divorce Papers would be on their way.

HOW DARE HE ! 

[jaypo]

I wouldn't put up with that either (earphones) although his wouldn't be put in the recycling,he'd be have them surgically removed 

[CLKD]

I'd fish them from the recycling to take to a charity shop 

[Losingtheplot]

 

That's got nowt to do with hormones!  That's plain rude and inconsiderate.  It would happen once here!  After which the ear phones would be in the recycling bin and a letter from the Solicitor offering Divorce Papers would be on their way.

HOW DARE HE ! 

 
In situations like this I just get my car keys and go for a drive and as other wise I would just lose it.

I will be doing the same to him at somepoint as thats how he learns when he is on the receiving end.   

[Losingtheplot]

I wouldn't put up with that either (earphones) although his wouldn't be put in the recycling,he'd be have them surgically removed 

  I just laugh at him when he acts like this as I tell him he is a sulky child!

[CLKD]

I would lose my cool.  That would show him!!!

What do you intend to do ?  This is abuse you know.  Men can no longer claim ignorance, there's enough information out there about most diseases, conditions, illnesses. 

I am fuming - my DH wouldn't dream of ignoring me in that way, his case would be packed, out on the drive for all to see and locks changed. Pronto. 

[Losingtheplot]

I would lose my cool.  That would show him!!!

What do you intend to do ?  This is abuse you know.  Men can no longer claim ignorance, there's enough information out there about most diseases, conditions, illnesses. 

I am fuming - my DH wouldn't dream of ignoring me in that way, his case would be packed, out on the drive for all to see and locks changed. Pronto.

He didnt know what I am going thru with peri meno and Ive explained alot of things to him since. So he understands better now.
Not using this as an excuse but my mother in law wasnt the best as he was growing up. Lots of reasons but used to have rages of anger and is a hypochondriac so is always looking at what she may have illness was all the time!
When he was younger she used to follow him around the house nit picking he hadn't done the house chores properly etc and wouldn't let matters drop. I have seen how unbearable she can be. I feel divorcing someone over this is extreme as relationships have ups and downs. I just walk away to diffuse the situation.

[CLKD]

Morning.  You R enabling him  . 

I didn't mention divorce ;-).  My suggestion was to bring it to his attention that attitudes need to change.

Who usually breaks the impasse?  My s-in-l tried laughing at her husband and ended up with a black eye 

[SarahT]

I am lucky in that my poor confused husband who often bears the brunt of my peri madness, realises that I have actually had to change my own attitude, in that so am not physically capable of being able to do all the tasks I need or want to do. He is supporting me as he tries, like me, to understand how Crap I feel

I have learned to to cut down on some things, and not justify my need to go for a walk on my own when I am really bad and need to get away. My version of going for a drive.

Is it an option to explain that you just cannot do everything that you were once able to do. I am the world's worse in asking for help, sometimes so expect my husband to know what help I need as traditionally we have both done our own chores around the house.

Sometimes we just can't do it all anymore. So... Maybe is it possible leave some of the less important jobs??

[Losingtheplot]

Morning.  You R enabling him  . 

I didn't mention divorce ;-).  My suggestion was to bring it to his attention that attitudes need to change.

Who usually breaks the impasse?  My s-in-l tried laughing at her husband and ended up with a black eye 

Yes I have brought it to his attention if he was ever physical with me it would the last time.

We both discuss it when tempers are calm

[Losingtheplot]

That's got nowt to do with hormones!  That's plain rude and inconsiderate.  It would happen once here!  After which the ear phones would be in the recycling bin and a letter from the Solicitor offering Divorce Papers would be on their way.

HOW DARE HE ! 

Hi CLKD,

You do mention divorce hunni in this post. It has all been discussed and sorted and he admits he needs to do more and will so time will tell its not like this all the time.