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Donnadoobie

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I am struggling with daughters situation!
« on: October 24, 2023, 07:37:38 AM »

Ok I need to get this off my chest and don’t know where else to share it.  Long, so please try stay with me

My daughter, has PCOS and is trying to conceive.  During their investigations the discovered that she has uterine dysplasia and needs some investigation.  She suffers with anxiety and was quite worked up about it.  She also had covid quite badly last week.  She is very overweight and eats badly I need to add. She is 29.

Yesterday she went for the first procedure which was to insert a camera into her uterus.  They took her bp ( has always been in normal range, last time at the doctor around 3 months ago it was 120/80)it was 195/120, they took it 3 times and it came down a little but not massively.  Consultant was abrupt and said they couldn’t do the procedure as she might have a stroke, she started to cry and he asked her why she was crying ( such empathy!).

She went to her Gp who took her bp again a it was still very high so sent her to hospital, where the managed to get it down to 164/114 and sent her home with some Ramipril 50mg. The also said that there was protein in her urine and there may be kidney damage because of the bp

Her husband is a St John Volunteer and he took her bp this morning and it was 186/125!  I have told her not to go to work and contact the hospital or her GP.

I am so so worried about her, I cannot even go to see her as we live 40 minutes away in the car and working today with a house full of children as a childminder.  Her mother in law has been amazing!

I have worried about her health for years but I am so scared. She is just about so start a new job too!  I cannot lose my lovely daughter.

If you got this far thank you, I just needed to share this as I am struggling and don’t know what to do.
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Penguin

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Re: I am struggling with daughters situation!
« Reply #1 on: October 24, 2023, 07:58:26 AM »

Hi
I don't have any advice, it sounds awful what you are all going through and I feel so much empathy for you as I imagine you feel really helpless with it all too.
I did wonder though, perhaps the BP is temporary and a result of the body fighting off covid, given her BP is usually normal, did the hospital mention that? Also, is she on (or did she take during covid) any medication that could have caused the BP rise?
 Also with kidneys, the levels can go up and down. My mum had a big dip in kidney function with an antibiotic amd when she had pneumonia, and it came back up again.
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Donnadoobie

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Re: I am struggling with daughters situation!
« Reply #2 on: October 24, 2023, 08:29:32 AM »

Thank you Penguin.  That thought did cross my mind she is also prone to anxiety attacks and it was a very stressful day yesterday, and just getting over a bad dose of Covid.  She is due to go back to the hospital tomorrow.  I am guessing they will chase the renal situation tomorrow too.  I was hoping 50mg of Ramipril yesterday evening would have brought bp down by now.

As an aside.  This could be genetic too.  I was diagnosed with hypertension age 24, lots of investigations done at the time, as a fit 56kg 24 year old it seemed strange.  They put it down to genetics, My mum was diagnosed aged 32 when pregnant with my sister in 1956, she had to stay in hospital for the last three months of pregnancy!  Both of us had very high readings at diagnosis but no cause ever found.

Very distracted today so worried about her.
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CLKD

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Re: I am struggling with daughters situation!
« Reply #3 on: October 24, 2023, 08:36:44 AM »

Of course you are distracted.  She is however a Big Girl, is probably aware of her weight not helping with conceiving so probably needs support to lose weight B4 any other investigations.  Has any medic advised a programme where your DD can be monitored?  Even as remote as Weight Watchers where encouragement is key.

Also many suffer with white coat syndrome when faced with stressful situations.  DH particularly, a calmer man you will never meet.  We have a BP monitor at home.

How is her attitude to losing weight?  This can back people into a corner or they become despondent and think 'nothing will make any difference'.  Her husband, where does he fit into encouragement with eating 'better'? 

Obesity is a complex condition which needs support from an early age.  Sometimes families are the 'best' to give the support as it can be interpreted as nagging etc..

Give yourself a break.  You can't alter the situation until your DD returns from her next appt..  Keep us up to date?
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Katherine

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Re: I am struggling with daughters situation!
« Reply #4 on: October 24, 2023, 09:05:28 AM »

Donnadoobie I really feel for you. I just wanted to let you know that when I am ill my heart rate increases a lot, maybe by 40bpm, then it returns to normal when I recover so maybe the high bp is temporary due to having had covid. Also my friend lost lots of weight with the help of an injection that he has regularly, I think it’s available in the nhs. So I hope this information might be helpful to you. X
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CLKD

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Re: I am struggling with daughters situation!
« Reply #5 on: October 27, 2023, 02:53:41 PM »

Any news, has your DD been seen again?
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