Hi! Who manages your Epilepsy? Is there a charity/group who you could contact? How about Headway, the Charity for those who have suffered head injuries - epilepsy is a known issue, they may also have ladies in menopause that are affected.
Which Dr can't put you on any treatment for anxiety/depression, your GP? If not he/she should b referring you to an appropriate consultant.
Hopefully someone will be along, in the mean time put in epilepsy into the search box on here. Make notes ;-)