Hi!  Who manages your Epilepsy?  Is there a charity/group who you could contact?  How about Headway, the Charity for those who have suffered head injuries - epilepsy is a known issue, they may also have ladies in menopause that are affected.  
Which Dr can't put you on any treatment for anxiety/depression, your GP?  If not he/she should b referring you to an appropriate consultant.
Hopefully someone will be along, in the mean time put in epilepsy into the search box on here.  Make notes ;-)