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[Mucha]

Hello everyone. I finally threw my hands up in defeat and admitted to myself that I’m very likely in the midst of peri menopause. It was a hard admission as I can’t have children so on top of everything else I have an overwhelming sense of mourning for never having children. I suppose I thought if I didn’t admit it, it wouldn’t happen.

Symptoms? Raging anger, enough to drive my husband wide eyed from the room. Tearful. Hot flushes. Cold flushes. Tingling lips and tongue when I eat. Crashing fatigue. A constant sense of impending doom. My digestive system which was already sensitive has gone haywire and my anxiety is through the roof and I’m constantly overthinking my symptoms and getting inside my own head.

My periods have gone from being every 28 days or so to roughly 80 to 90 days and have been really heavy. My most recent was 10 days of spotting after 90 odd days of nothing.

I don’t know if any of my other symptoms are relevant to this or something else. I have so many aches and pains, my bad back is worse and I have the strangest tight feeling at the top of my inner thigh by my groin. I get odd dull “stabbing-aches” down below and have convinced myself something sinister is going on.

Anyway, after my epic first post I’ll leave it there 😊

[CLKD]

Oh that's not epic   

As oestrogen levels drop off the body may become dry: inside and out - deep in the ears, nostrils, vagina [read our threads    ], skin, scalp as well as muscles may become lax = aches and pains.  Fortunately not all over and rarely all at once!

Browse round.  MayB decide which symptom you would like to ease first, pop it into the search box and read the threads.  Make notes ;-).

My periods waxed and waned for several years.  Some months I would miss completely.  Then back they would come.  The stabbing-aches may well be the beginning of vaginal atrophy .......

It's The Change, does what it says on the tin  .  Nowt is too much info. so ask away!

[CLKD]

If you really wanted babies I think you have to mourn for not fulfilling that part of your Life.  How does your husband feel about it all?  Often men are more accepting. 

[Mucha]

Hi and thanks for the welcome 😁

Regarding the fertility issue, he never talks about it and even when I mention it he isn’t very vocal 😕

He is rather vocal on all my seemingly never ending symptoms though, and gets frustrated that “there’s always something else”. This is causing problems as now I feel I have to bottle it all up and never mention anything.

[Taz2]

Hi Mucha! I know exactly what you mean about if you don't mention it then it's not happening!

Just to welcome you! It will be worth having a blood count done just to rule out other things such as anaemia (tingling tongue and lips and fatigue) or vitamin D deficiency (aches and pains and fatigue).

Do you get any pain with the groin tightness?

Taz x 

[CLKD]

There is a page to print off - advice for husbands - ;-).  In the All Things Menopause room. 

Hand it over.  It is important that men don't feel it's all their fault [even though it might be, partly  ]

[Mucha]

Hi Mucha! I know exactly what you mean about if you don't mention it then it's not happening!

Just to welcome you! It will be worth having a blood count done just to rule out other things such as anaemia (tingling tongue and lips and fatigue) or vitamin D deficiency (aches and pains and fatigue).

Do you get any pain with the groin tightness?

Taz x 

Hi Taz 👋

The ostrich technique doesn’t always work does it 😏

I’m always a little anemic but haven’t ever had the tingling  symptom before. The last time was when I had an allergic reaction to amoxicillin!

The right-side tightness was just uncomfortable but now and again it’s a little more. I tripped over a gate we have indoors to stop roaming rabbits, caught my right foot and landed heavily on my left knee and elbow. Of course now I’m struggling to remember if I had the mild pain before I tripped!

[Mucha]

There is a page to print off - advice for husbands - ;-).  In the All Things Menopause room. 

Hand it over.  It is important that men don't feel it's all their fault [even though it might be, partly  ]

I’m going to check that out! Thanks! He actually ran from the room after poking the already angry bear once 🤣

[CLKD]

I suspect that your trip and fall is the cause of your inner leg pain?  Rabbits? we have pets threads here too ;-)

[Mucha]

I suspect that your trip and fall is the cause of your inner leg pain?  Rabbits? we have pets threads here too ;-)

Two rabbits and a parrot 🦜😀

[CLKD]

Oh!  what kinds of bunnies?  Does the parrot behave?

[Mucha]

Oh!  what kinds of bunnies?  Does the parrot behave?

A blue eyed white lop and an English spot cross 🐰 🐰 and no, she doesn’t 🤣 she’s so naughty!

[CLKD]

Does she like men? 

[Mucha]

Yes! She worships my husband, screams her head off if he leaves the room then flies to him when he comes back in.

[CLKD]