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Focus

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A sad few days
« on: April 04, 2020, 01:51:57 PM »

It's hard to be separated from loved ones at the moment.

My fianc? buried his mum yesterday. And this morning he got news that his sister in law had passed away (from cancer).
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Katejo

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Re: A sad few days
« Reply #1 on: April 04, 2020, 02:25:49 PM »

It's hard to be separated from loved ones at the moment.

My fianc? buried his mum yesterday. And this morning he got news that his sister in law had passed away (from cancer).
  Really sorry to hear that Focus? Was she already very ill  ?
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Tc

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Re: A sad few days
« Reply #2 on: April 04, 2020, 02:57:03 PM »

So sorry focus. Sending love. It feels so unnatural to not be able to hug and comfort our loved ones. X
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Focus

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Re: A sad few days
« Reply #3 on: April 04, 2020, 03:19:42 PM »

I know. Another loss, in a sense.

His mum was in her mid 90s and her health had been gradually failing over this past month. The care home made an exception for them to be able to visit during this time. Only 6 at the funeral though.

Hi SIL had been ill for maybe a year. She was too unwell to take part in a clinical trial towards the very end.

She'll have to be buried down south with none of them there apart from her husband and his family. Her family is from the north of Italy, so they can't travel.

Awful.
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CLKD

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Re: A sad few days
« Reply #4 on: April 04, 2020, 03:34:01 PM »

Light a candle in your hearts which can be carried always

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Pennyfarthing

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Re: A sad few days
« Reply #5 on: April 04, 2020, 04:24:30 PM »

So sorry to read your sad news.  Take care. Xx
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Kathleen

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Re: A sad few days
« Reply #6 on: April 04, 2020, 04:51:10 PM »

Hello Focus.

So sorry for your loss.

Sending hugs and warm thoughts.

Take care.

K.
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Barnacle

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Re: A sad few days
« Reply #7 on: April 04, 2020, 05:21:34 PM »

I'm so sorry, Focus xx
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littleminnie

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Re: A sad few days
« Reply #8 on: April 04, 2020, 05:55:38 PM »

 :hug: so sorry.
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Hurdity

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Re: A sad few days
« Reply #9 on: April 04, 2020, 06:33:59 PM »

Oh I'm so sorry to hear this sad news Focus. Thinking of you. :hug:

Hurdity x
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Focus

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Re: A sad few days
« Reply #10 on: April 04, 2020, 08:52:32 PM »

Thank you lovely ladies.

We did a Saturday night cook along this evening. We FB video chatted, and both made the same recipe (more or less) at the same time, and then ate together.

He said it really helped and he felt normal again.

If you're separated from family/loved ones I can really recommend this.
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sheila99

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Re: A sad few days
« Reply #11 on: April 04, 2020, 10:20:08 PM »

So sorry for you and your family Focus. Some people unable to hold a traditional funeral seem to planning to have a memorial service when the lock down is over. Nothing can replace a funeral but this seems like the next best option.
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Tc

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Re: A sad few days
« Reply #12 on: April 04, 2020, 11:26:26 PM »

Maybe I shoudnt say this. But I hope it migh help others. My wifes ashes are still not buried after 5 years.  I still havent found a place I am happy  to bury her for many reasons. . I was lucky that it happened when we could have a funeral Service. It was a humanist service and I wrote the whole thing.  But I feel for you focus and for many others because the service is about the living not the dead.  And I hope and believe that when this is all over you and everyone who  hasnt been able to have that service, whatever denomination you may be, will be able to have something you can come together to celebrate your loved ones life. 

Xxxx
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Annie0710

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Re: A sad few days
« Reply #13 on: April 04, 2020, 11:28:35 PM »

Aw Focus it's all so sad

Sending big hugs to you all x
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Ladybt28

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« Reply #14 on: April 04, 2020, 11:57:54 PM »

Thinking of you Focus, my Dad died suddenly on 23rd Feb just when all this was kicking off but we managed a proper funeral though, sort of just in time...that sounds so awful doesn't it.  Losing someone is bad enough but no funeral and having to isolate from family and friends at a time like that must make it even more traumatic.  Sure its happening to loads of people with so many losing their lives through this horrible virus.  I cant imagine what it would have been like with no funeral.
Thank the lord for video chat at least! xxx  My youngest son had to go back for work on the Wednesday after the funeral and has been home alone all the time since.  His work set up working from home but he is climbing the walls not seeing anyone he knows.

We facetime all the time, but is not the same but it will have to do.  I think I will take a leaf out of your book and maybe try and teach him to cook..he could be a world class chef by the time I get back!!  Mind you sometimes all you need is a just a hug and nothing else. Your fianc? must feel terrible.  I have found it makes you feel so powerless.  xx

Sending much love and lovely thoughts and a few prayers that this is over soon and you can hug each other.xxx
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