Paulapo - it is not necessary to see a private doctor that prescribes "bio-identical hormones". I'm not sure what sort of doc you have booked with or where you are but better to go to the gynaecologist that you are being referred to at least at first. This private doc - will only prescribe what is available on NHS ie oestrogen gel ( or patches) and progesterone (ie utrogestan). If they are prescribing compounded creams supposedly on an individualised basis, then please do not waste your money -as these are unnecessary and unregulated.
If there is no menopause specialist at your local hosptial it is your right to be referred to your nearest menopause clinic - if you are prepared to travel (eg mine is about 65 miles away but I'm lucky to have good gyane GP locally), although waiting lists can be long.
Have you tried Utrogestan? Vaginally? Or thought of a Mirena coil? Or if you are post-menopausal stretching your cycle so it is a it longer than 28 days, to minimise progestogen intake - maybe your doc can approve this or at least consult someone on your behalf?
I would really pursue the available options before going down the private route if you can - although the only additional thing you might be able to get from your private appt is testosterone - which is indicated if you have low libido/response and not taking meds which can depress it eg some ADs, and oral oestrogen. But please beware of the very expensive BHRT con!
Let us know how you get on

Hurdity x