CLKD my mum wasn't truthful with me either, she was married before so i had a half sister and a half brother, but i was told their father was my father, and i sometimes went to stay with them, but i couldn't understand why their father didn't acknowledge me as his
I didn't find out who my real father was until i was in my mid forties,and that was only because my [half] sister sent for my original birth certificate, and what a mix up it was, my mum had mixed her first husbands name and job up
When i faced her with my real birth certificate, she cried and said she thwith my real fathers, but put first husbands name as my father
My sister was sick of the lies and thought i should know the truth, she did this i believe out of spite as it turned out my mother had left her and my brother with their father and gone off with a soldier stationed at a base nearby
My mother had told me she was having me when she left, but i now kow it was 2 years after she left
When i faced her with the real birth certificate she said" i thought you wouldn't want to know me"
After all those years of being lied to and i knew it was a lie, i had held it against her,
I told her i would rather i had known the truth because i knew it was a lie, and i know it was during the war, and these things happen,
I told her i forgave her, but she should have trusted me to understand, so a lot of wasted years,because i had hostile to her
At least we made up before she died, a few years later
Another lie or maybe a misunderstanding i think.my eldest son at 8 years old wanted to go and live with his dad,[i was divorced by then] so i said ok but you can come back whenever you like ,thinking he would soon get fed up,
Anyway a few years later after i married again he asked to come back, my second husband said no, he wasn't even good to my other 2
Apparently my mother had told my son years later, that i didn't want him and sent him to his father,
My eldest son has finished all contact with me now,after a lot of years of asking me why he couldn't come back,and wont believe the truth, as he said why would an old lady lie
I realise that 8 years old was too young to make that decision and doesn't now remember, but always intended that he could come back to me
Very sorr for the long post and my life story. well half of it anyway,
I think i could write a book, lol
