Irishwendy,
I tried HRT for just under 3 months. I don't think it helped with my symptoms, possibly made them worse. The same symptoms you describe, and a few more.
I ripped my patch off on Sunday night. I hope to feel better soon, although I know I will be going back to how it was before starting the HRT, which wasnt great
I was on the minipill for 12 years, before swithing to HRT. Although my peri was sudden and surgical.
If you think you will be better with a little more progesterone, than I would go for it. You really have nothing to lose. You can take the minipill up to age 55. So go for it. You won't know unless you try. And you can always stop.