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[Kathleen]

Hello ladies.

Do any of you lovely ladies have some advice for coping with the emotional rollercoaster that comes with the menopause? My trusty meno book says that these symptoms should fade in our early sixties but at sixty one I am still struggling. I am also trying a new HRT, three pumps of Oestrogel and Utrogestan vaginally but it's only been a few weeks so too early to feel any benefit I  expect. I just hate the way I can feel tired but also so tense that I want to scream and then really want to cry. I honestly worry that I'm going mad but then along comes a hot flush so I assume it's all hormonal. Even at my most tense I can be distracted and forget about the tension but it is often there just under the surface, at other times I feel completely normal and calm. The last time I mentioned this to a GP she said I shouldn't be having mood swings as I am post menopausal but  I'm still flushing and experiencing disturbed sleep so why not the whole shebang!

Any thoughts ladies? I hate being so emotionally unstable so any tips about how to cope would be very much  appreciated.

Wishing you all well and sympathies if like me you are suffering in the heat!

K.

[Toodle Pips]

Hi Kathleen

I am not post menopausal but am definitely living on an emotional rollercoaster. I have started meditating which I find beneficial for a while. I try and think positively which isn't always easy when you are in a black hole. But often thinking positive does help. But I cry when I have to, and sometimes I just sit at home and watch tv or read a book. I also potter around the house a bit and talk to my pets a lot lol. I find them therapeutic. When I am feeling well, I do try and get some fresh air every day. But I have really been suffering with stomach problems since it got hot and don't really have any energy for a walk.

[Kathleen]

Hello Toodle Pips.

Thank you for your response. Like you I try and keep myself occupied but I agree that the hot weather makes outdoor activities very tiring.

Wishing you well.

K.

[Lanzalover]

Hi Kathleen

I really feel for you and although I don't suffer now.Before I managed to sort out the HRT I can remember feeling like you in fact there had been quite a lot of discussion on the forum about this in the last of couple of days and I feel very sad for anyone currently suffering with it as it's just awful.

Most GP's don't understand the first thing about menopause so if you are lucky enough to find one who is sympathetic and willing to go along with suggestions you have hang onto them. I was lucky to find one in ours and she was quite happy to prescribe anything that I thought would help and it took a lot of attempts(I think I must tried nearly every available HRT) before finding the one.In fact I cann't remember the last time I saw her while at one time I seemed to be there every other month.

Unfortunately I don't have any tips to help you currently as in my case it was definitely hormonal and nothing I tried worked but I can assure you are not going mad.Hopefuly someone will be along with some tips for you use until the HRT works it magic.

Just as an aside once I was settled on a regime which worked for me and I had managed to get my Estrogen levels up I did add testestogel and that definitely helped with libido response etc and  I'm sure without (going into a lot of detail) this has contributed greatly to how to how I feel now.

Don't give up because there is light at the end of tunnel but for you and I it appears ours is/was a very long one.

Hoping you get some relief soon and today is a better day for you.

Lanzalover x

[Kathleen]

Hello Lanzalover.

Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful reply. It means a lot to know that other ladies have felt as I do but are now doing well. I will continue trying to find the right HRT mix and hope for the best.

Wishing you well.

K.

[CLKD]

How is your diet overall Kathleen?  Mood swings can be caused by the body needing energy.  If you think of a baby/toddler who gets irritable and cries when hungry, I am pretty much the same if tea is 'late' to the table  .  Add to that bodily need a mix of hormonal upheaval?  Have you tried my every 3 hour regime, it takes a while to get into routine, especially in the night. 

Have you a thick pillow to punch?  I found that a useful tactic too 

[Lanzalover]

Good afternoon Kathleen

Your are more than welcome just hope things settle soon for you.
Fingers crossed you are having a better day today.

Take care
Lanzalover x

[CLKD]

The book is ............. put it somewhere in the dark perhaps and listen to your body? and your GP is getting her info from where exactly   

Each journey is different.  Were you exactly the same as other Girls during your menstruating years?  Stands to reason that we won't have the same patterns even if experiences are similar.