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[Toodle Pips]

I haven't been able to drive on motorways since a panic attack in 2009. Was I peri even way back then?

I ended up in hospital last year with what I now know was a panic attack, but while it was happening I thought it was a heart attack. Since then I always carry rescue remedy spray and Kalm tablets. Both of which help. I am also able to calm myself down better now that I know why I have them.

One side story to all of this, last year, when I believe peri really started to kick in, I couldn't sleep...for four nights in a row. Every night I came down and sat on our new sofa, and cried all night. Anyhow, I managed to start to sleep again on a night, but I always had this mental block about that sofa. We only bought it last May, and I would never sit on it again after my sleepless nights. I even had to change the furniture around so that it wasn't in the same spot as it had been during my sleepless nights. Eventually, I asked my husband if we could sell it and get new sofas so that I didn't have to look at it ever again. Bless him, he agreed to it, but we did lose £700 in the process as nobody would pay the brand new price for it!

That was my purple sweet potato moment.🤨

[Dotty]

I'm the same Toodle Pips. I can't watch television programmes that I used to watch when I was very poorly with awful menopause symptoms.

[Toodle Pips]

Isn't it weird how it affects us?

Oh the other thing that has happened since peri really kicked in is that I now hate cooking. I used to love it, but just have a real mental block particularly with the evening meal 

[Toodle Pips]

Glad things are better re the drivin Sparkle. Sadly for me it has never improved and I can manage to drive locally. Though I did go to Gretna a couple of years ago and managed to do it by avoiding motorways lol.

Yes I have digestive issues that have worsened since peri began, and there isn't a lot I can eat. So cooking the same old boring food day in and out has lost its sparkle...

[SueLW]

I am sat here in my office with the curtains drawn and the fan on.  Outside it's over 28C already.  I am no longer able to cope with this heatwave.  It's making me feel really unwell now.

Last night at 1.30am I woke up with racing pounding heart.  Very fast and forceful.  Immediate anxiety and stress.  I feel as if I'm trying to crawl out of my skin to run away but I can't get out, I sort of whimper instead.  I eventually had to get up.  My husband got up and played comic songs from our childhood to try to take my mind off it.  It wouldn't stop.  I eventually went back to bed because we were so tired.  I haven't been able to sleep properly for weeks because of the heat, if I have the fan on my feet get cold and it's a bit noisy.  We usually have it on for part of the night.  Then we do the duvet dance all night.  Feet in, feet out, body naked, under the covers for a little while repeat ad-naseum. 

Woke up this morning and it was still going like that clappers.  He said it was less forceful and less fast, but I am in such a panic I can't tell.  I hate it.  I've had a lot of this.  Sometimes it's banging away all over the place and I was diagnosed with atrial fibrillation as a result of that long before I thought to look at perimenopause.  But this is different.  It's still going.  I feel faint in the heat if I try to do anything today.  I just want to cry.  And I really want it to go back to a normal beat.

For weeks now I've been very bloated and full of fluid too.  I don't feel like my HRT is working anymore.  I have to last 10 days until I see the specialist.  Life is just miserable and has been for 6 years now. The last time I had a few actual happy days was last August bank holiday.  What's the point.

[jillydoll]

Suelw
I'm sorry your suffering so much, and I don't have any answers,
But I'm sure someone will post soon..
It must be horrible for you, i really feel your pain,
I too am suffering in this bloody heatwave, I hate it, far too hot for me.
Hang on in there honey, 10days seem a long time away, but there not really,
But they're going to feel like it to you because your suffering so much....
Stay strong, take care,

Jd x

[CLKD]

Mirabelle - 4 me anxiety is physical. On good days I can think about stuff that would floor me and it is OK.  Once I feel queasy then I'm down within moments.  Despite my CBT, relaxation therapy etc. 

Feeling bloated 4 me in the 1990s was caused by irritable bowel syndrome.  Appropriate medication eased symptoms, maybe we shouldn't put everything down to 'the change'. 

I drive much better when alone.  I can stop when I like, any small mistakes are mine ............ I ought to drive more often.