Morning all
I was posting on another thread ("Losing your looks") about how I don't mind the idea of becoming invisible as I age if it stops people being overly interested in me - something I dislike about living in the countryside where everyone wants to know your business. And it started me wondering about others' experience. Has anyone else moved from the town or suburbs to the countryside and found it's not for them? Did you move back?
We moved 3.5 hours away from the congested south east a year ago but have decided to move back next year for a number of reasons, the main one being we really miss our nearest and dearest and miss not being able to see them spontaneously. It always has to be a pre-planned weekend visit and with busy lives - ours and theirs - it's difficult to pull off. We've given it a lot of thought and believe we will regret the time not spent with our nearest and dearest more than we will miss living in the countryside. So we're moving back next year.
We moved in pursuit of the country cottage idyllic lifestyle. We have the cottage, the countryside, the peace and quiet, the lack of traffic, the slower pace of life but we can't stand the way everyone knows your business, and not because they care or are interested in you as they never follow up on anything you share and ask you how it's going. They seem to just want to be the first person to have new information that they can pass on.
It's a rural hamlet of 9 houses. Everyone but us is retired. We've had people watching what our builders are doing with binoculars from across the field, climbing on step ladders to peer over the fence and see the changes we've made in the back garden, asking my boss at work how I'm getting on and every club I join seems to have someone in it who knows someone in the hamlet so everyone also knows what I do out of work.
They all know the receptionist at the local doctor's surgery in the village and I've heard this receptionist gossiping about other patients' health issues with them! Fortunately I witnessed this before we'd registered at the surgery in time for us to register at a different one - God knows what they would have made of all my meno symptoms !!!
I recently passed someone in the lane that I barely know who started fingering my hair and said "Oh yes, whatshisname (another neighbour) said you'd changed your hair colour ..." Honestly, how can that be interesting enough to discuss !
Anyway, it's off topic but an interesting subject (to me anyway!) so just wondered what other people have experienced ? xxx