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[dulciana]

At the moment, shortly after I wake up the anxiety kicks in, followed by an adrenaline rush and that's my signal for getting my early morning cuppa.  Soon after breakfast, I start feeling overwhelmed by things I have to do for myself and for others.   Then I start feeling negative and despondent, especially if (like today) it's blanket-grey outside.  I don't know if I'm looking for a solution.  I just wanted to share it, as I don't want to offload on to Hubby who's got his own health issues at the moment.  (Interesting paragraph - it starts and ends with the same words  ) 

[Yammy1]

It's really hard but try not to overthink, take things one step at a time. I find if I keep my mind occupied it's easier to cope with the fear and anxiety.

[CLKD]

You share.  I had this years ago.

I found that making a list each evening really helped me see what I had *actually * achieved by the end of the next day.  Everything initially: feeding the cats, cleaning bowls, washing up ......... and anything not done went on the next list.  Once I relaxed about chores I didn't need the list.

That cortisol hormone has a lot to answer for 

[dulciana]

I think it's to do with the weekend I've just had and things coming up soon.  Saturday was its usual busy self, plus an extra bit on top. Sunday morning I did my usual on the organ then in the afternoon, I had to cover for my Dad at an event and ended up having to do more there than I'd anticipated.  So I didn't really have a weekend and I was shattered last night.  Hubby's been sitting around and talking about heavy things all morning - makes me really wish his gout would settle down so that he can get out more and I can get some peace! (It is on the way down.  I just have to be patient.) I've only been able to manage twenty minutes on the organ this morning, so added to all the above, I'm now frustrated too.   Oh well, maybe at least I've used up some of the adrenalin that came in between the anxiety and being overwhelmed.  Busy this afternoon and this evening.    Drinking some strong, dark coffee just now in preparation.  Hope I don't get too much of a slump later on..... 

[Roseneath]

Hi dulciana.  Know that you are not alone! If I am alone with a book I feel just about OK but any kids of stress which I would havebreezed through a few years ago and I turn into a stuttering, heart pounding mess; even like you  said a conversation with the hubby. I think busy, busy and eat little and often. I bought a SAD lamp last autumn as like you the grey days really don't help. The hyped up feeling is awful though and hard to shake off. I hv a GP appointment (soonest one with female two weeks away!) to discuss.maybe medications.

[Hurdity]

Sorry to hear you're feeling like this.

I know it's important to keep busy to prevent negative thoughts and being overwhelmed but doing too many things that cause stress can have the same negative effect. You can't do anything about your husband's health nor worrying about your father and I know you have achieved  so much with your success at organ playing, but I wonder if you are able to pace yourself to reduce the stress and worry about your own responsibilities at this stage? Maybe you feel that it is worth it to get the buzz when things go so well?

It's easy for me to say I know as I have retired and only have one (usually) important weekly commitment where I have to take the lead and need to be on top form - but looking back - even though I am well post-menopausal and taking HRT - the more commitments and responsibility I have/had the more worry and stress I experienced (as I imagine do most people) - and I'm feeling far more relaxed now.

Performance of any sort will produce nervous energy, adrenaline and stress so maybe that is part and parcel of how you are feeling? Have you tried the various techniques (sorry I'm no expert) but mindfulness, breathing, 3-2-1 anxiety exercise etc which might help?

Hurdity  x

[Vieja Bruja]

I tend to keep Monday's clear if I can, hubby is at work and FD is at school, I sit with my bullet journal and plan my week ahead, breaking down my tasks as dailies or weeklies or even monthlies.  If I don't complete a task, I'll carry it forward to the next day or next week etc, I don't beat myself up about it.  I also use it as my opportunity to catch up on all my TV programmes and do my crochet (and eat chocolate without being judged).

I've just recently started HRT and that is certainly helping with my morning adrenaline rush and sweaty episodes but I'm also learning the importance of 'me time' and I don't care what anyone else thinks of me doing nothing on a Monday 

[CLKD]

As I got older I learned to say 'no' more readily ;-).

dulciana - have you looked at your diet?  Maybe you are burning off energy that you are't replacing ?

[Lady Daviot]

Hi Ladies, I would agree that we should all try and say No more often. Most of us are juggling so much stuff. I had for a while morning adrenaline and it was awful and I just felt wired. GP suggested a beta blocker, I took for a wee while and stopped and found when I got all jittery at any time, if possible I went for a walk and sprayed some magnesium on my body. Life is challenging and we need to be kind to ourselves. xxx

[dulciana]

Thanks ladies.  It's not the organ that's causing the problem here.  I would say that's what is being pushed into the background, which is not what I want.  It's my escape, where I always feel liberated and in my own world.  I don't think my diet is part of the problem, either, as I tend to eat what I feel my body needs, both in terms of meals and snacks.  It's the other factors that are really getting me down at the moment and my inability to stand back from them.   That's just me, unfortunately.   I'm thinking about various things that you've all suggested in your replies.  The SAD lamp, magnesium spray, not overthinking (hard one!) ..............