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Brummig

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Not coping
« on: July 30, 2017, 09:33:35 PM »

Gp confirmed a few months ago I am in menopause. I am short tempered, not sleeping, total brain fog. I know I'm not great but got called out at work couple of weeks ago by my boss. I had had Avery emotional day a couple of days before but tried to leave the room rather than totally flip out in front of everyone. Its very stressful at work and we are all feeling it, and I know I haven't been very effective but I feel I am been treated differently than a colleague. Now it feels unfair and I feel even more pressure when what I needed was a bit of support. I have a 'chat' with hr tomorrow because I had to show I was willing to make an effort to change things. I am dreading it, now in addition to feeling rubbish and dressed I am anxious about work and just the thought of it is reducing me to tears. What is happening to me? Have a gp appointment on Friday to talk about hrt, but just feel very on the edge right now.
 
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Woodlands

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Re: Not coping
« Reply #1 on: July 30, 2017, 10:12:11 PM »

Hey honey.
Your not alone. I had the aame too just a couple of years ago ....action plan, my boss saying I wasn't coping.
In fact I was doing ok in the bully world of work. Talk to a close friend and check behaviour policies at work. I wouls only meet my line manager with my union rep present. Sadly my eldest son took his life at the same time, I am a single woman but I re evaluated as a nurse in safeguarding at 52 and took early retirement. I work again in a job I really enjoy.
Lots of hugs
Woodlands xx
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Suzanne123

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Re: Not coping
« Reply #2 on: July 31, 2017, 02:19:05 PM »

Hi Brummig

How did the chat with HR go?
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janjan1962

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Re: Not coping
« Reply #3 on: July 31, 2017, 09:19:47 PM »

Hi Brummig
reading your post it I didn't a second take at it as all you have said it exactly how I am feeling and keep having massive meltdowns whereby I feel like I am losing my marbles.
you are not alone in this...far from it. big hug xx
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CLKD

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Re: Not coping
« Reply #4 on: July 31, 2017, 09:52:41 PM »

HORMONES! and many Companies are taking steps to integrate this problem as it arises.  Hopefully HR will be up to date with menopause and the problems it can bring! 
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Brummig

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Re: Not coping
« Reply #5 on: August 01, 2017, 05:26:29 AM »

Thank you all for your support. It was actually OK. HR lady has been through it herself and was very supportive. I was in such a state by the time we met I just kept crying. We agreed I will stay off this week (I have a 14 year old with autism and a 5 year old but they are with grandparents so I can actually stop a bit) then see what gp says on Friday.
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CLKD

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Re: Not coping
« Reply #6 on: August 01, 2017, 01:24:45 PM »

>PHEW<! you have an ally (sp) ......... feet up with cuppa to hand, get some VitD when the weather is sunny and make the most of the break!
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DaisyB

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Re: Not coping
« Reply #7 on: August 01, 2017, 11:03:20 PM »

Hi Brummig - so glad HR were understanding. There is plenty of info regarding treatment and your options on this site. If you haven't already looked try browsing through the menu at top of site before visiting your GP if you think it would be useful. There's an info leaflet I'm sure regarding employers -
Take care


DaisyB x
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daisysareyellow

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Re: Not coping
« Reply #8 on: August 02, 2017, 03:12:18 AM »

It kind of annoys me that workplaces are so unfriendly to people having emotional issues. I work for myself as I am a Nanny, but have worked in childcare centres, kindergartens and also an office. In the childcare world, we are actively told that we must support each other. @ Brummig - Do you think it is the workplace or your behaviour that is the problem? Sometimes when we are emotional, it's difficult to tell where the problem actually is. Either way, people go through difficult times and if you have been a good employee up to that point, they should be more understanding. Oh and crying isn't the worst thing you can do. It's normal!
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Suzi Q

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Re: Not coping
« Reply #9 on: August 02, 2017, 03:59:10 AM »

I worked in daycare before that nursing and your right we do support each other.
But sometimes the stress of work can affect some pre or meno or even post meno ladies
Sounds harsh but sadly the world doesnt stop for us . Its like the how are you! Most dont want to hear anything but im fine thanks.
You have to find a balance mine was going in to daycare. Id nursed for years then took a totally different path
I went into Retail and I was good with in a couple of years I was runnign 3 shops SunglASS hUT YOU might have heard of them?
I went over boy was I awful Id swear at my staff be up down I was a nightmare one day a st the next.
Finally one of the older ladies who could have been my MUM took me to task sent me home with a flea in my ear.
I got sorted and was so much better but decided after a while the added stress was too much.
I just walked in to a daycare centre aND was hired on the spot never looked back finished my last 12 years or so of work with bubbs
Im sorry your feeling so bad but honestly your not alone your not a monster or going mad its 100% normal chin up ok xxxxx
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