I'm reporting in!
All went semi-well this morning. I took my research with me, including CLKD's advice regarding how to approach my GP. She read what I had written, I felt that preferable to attempting to verbally explain. She was pleased I'd found MM and is aware of everything we all stand for.
After a long chat, I thought her next patient probably wondered if I'd taken up residence! We discussed my gynaecological history, my current domestic position, did I have problems with my Mum having to go into full time care, ( I don't); what was the hardest thing to do for her, (agreeing to and signing a DNR); did I feel safe at home because Stephen can get horrendously frustrated when he tries so hard to do something and finds he cannot. I have ducked a couple of times and once had to push him away and he fell. No, I'm not scared and I'm perfectly safe here. I think that when I explained that if I had cause to put anyone down, they stayed down, she realized I meant it. Stephen's stroke made Stephen react in this way, not Stephen himself.
She also asked if I had ever had thoughts of self harm or suicide at my worst time, no I never did.
There are 2 things going against me going back to HRT.
(1). The fact I had gone onto HRT aged 30 and had been on it for 20 years. That increased my risk to strokes and the like.
(2). I was adopted aged 12 weeks in 1954. With no genes history, she felt that my "being a mystery", (my description), means that extra care has to be taken when prescribing for me.
She took me step by step through all the pros and cons of everything. We came to an agreement that I try to her suggestion first. I now have 15mg of Mirtazapine for 6 weeks and then I see her again. At that time we can consider altering the dosage if needed. I know they are an antidepressant, however they are not addictive. She wants to get my sleep problems sorted first. If, at the end of 18 weeks I still want to go back onto HRT she will prescribe it, but against her better judgement.
Wait for ongoing episodes. I know that I cannot afford to risk a stroke or DVT, too many people need me to be on the ball, Stephen, my Mum, both Stephen's parents. Looks like I have a great deal of thinking to do. I'd really like to return to HRT, but maybe my history means that the risks might be too high.
Wish me luck!!!