It's a pity that these discussions can get a little heated.
Surely we are all just here to support and not try and tell someone else what they should do.
Sharing experiences is invaluable in my opinion and sometimes just coming to the forum and writing things down is what we need to do to see things clearer.
It's great to read of others successes if we are having a wobble. Sometimes that is more than enough for me.
I think of it as virtual hand holding

Mrs Brown